What to Do When Life Doesn’t Look How it “Should”


We all have a vision of how life “should be” and how it “should look”.

But, life is a series of ups and downs and rarely turns out like we believe it “should.”

Susan, a millennial, had a goal of becoming a successful manager in the financial industry. She believed this goal was her key to being successful, making a lot of money, and feeling good about herself.

She visualized the position. She developed the skills and earned certifications required. She worked hard.

You can imagine Susan’s surprise and upset that when she got the job she always believed she wanted, she realized the job wasn’t for her! So, she quit. She is now feeling lost and is grappling with what to do next because life isn’t looking like she thinks it should.

We feel stuck when our lives don’t match what social media posts and motivational speakers tell us. To make matters worse, we believe if we do all the right things and control our mindsets the right way, life will produce a panacea of great results!

The truth is, life is a series of ups and downs for each and every one of us! We cannot control life; but, we can take responsibility for getting the most out of this life.

12 Tips on How to Smooth Out the Bumpy Ride

  1. Take Good Care of Yourself. You are all you have! Your personal energy is a reflection of your health and mindset. Drink plenty of water, eat healthy, exercise, meditate, etc. To improve the quality of your sleep, think positive thoughts before falling asleep.
  2. Do Your Best Each Day. Attempting to operate at 100% every hour of every day isn’t realistic. Pay attention to your most productive times of the day. Schedule your time to reflect your values, priorities, and energy levels. For example, if you’re a morning person or someone who is more productive later in the day, schedule tough tasks and conversations accordingly.
  3. Be Kind. Learn to be kind to yourself (and others) when experiencing a bad time. Instead of saying, “buck it up” or “just get over it,” develop compassion for yourself and others.
  4. Stop Being a Control Fanatic! You cannot control people, situations or the economy! Learn how to be flexible when working with others. Learn how to work within structures before changing work or home rules. Keep your intentions on creating positive win-win-win outcomes.
  5. Learn How to Ride Out Business and Career Cycles. There will be periods of time when you feel on top of the world in business and your career. And, there will be times when you don’t. The challenge? When you’re doing well, it’s critical to understand you will never have it all handled. With every up there is a down and vise-versa. If you want true success, hire an external coach and find an industry mentor to keep moving forward. This minimizes feelings of defeat during the inevitable “down times.”
  6. Take an Honest Inventory Before Making Any Changes. In the above story, Susan had other alternatives rather than quitting. Write out the exercise, “What’s working? and What’s not working?” Use your numbers and be specific to get the most out of this exercise. (See: It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition) The key is to build from where you are…not start over. Also, use the brag exercises to become present and mindful of what you have accomplished. Then, share these accomplishments with others to support you in creating what’s next.
  7. Don’t Make Decisions When Feeling Low. There is no such thing as an inconsequential decision. (Jeannette Seibly) All decisions impact your life. Make your decisions from a position of strength.
  8. Life is a Process Not an Event. Think of the tortoise and the hare fablethe moral of this fable is that you can be more successful by doing things slowly and steadily than by acting quickly and carelessly.
  9. Practice Mindful Breathing. Concentrate on breathing when feeling stressed. It’s easy. Breathe in for a count of 5. Pause. Exhale for a count of 10. Repeat at least twice. (This really works.)
  10. Stay Present and Focused. Remember, our brains are not wired to multi-task. When having any conversation or handling any task, stay present and focus on what you are doing. The quality of your results will improve and the amount of time spent will decrease.
  11. Reward Yourself. Take a 5-minute break and physically move during the workday. Do things you enjoy. Read a fun article, take a walk, or listen to a podcast. Don’t use this time to check emails or make calls.
  12. Do It Now. Makes plans for fun and/or relaxation by doing those things you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t wait! Do it now!

©Jeannette Seibly, 2020

Jeannette Seibly is an award-winning dynamic results coach and keynote speaker. For the past 27 years, she has guided the creation of leaders to excel in achieving results. Are you ready for an unprecedented 2020? Contact Jeannette today for straight talk with dynamic results. Don’t forget to listen to NEW podcasts on Anchor.FM or YouTube.com.

De-Stress and Focus for an Amazing Holiday


It’s the holiday season…often the most stressful time of the year. How do you manage work, family and all the other stuff you have to do? How do you minimize stress with so many holiday distractions? And, in your business, how do you focus to get the most out of Q4?

11 Ways to De-Stress and Focus for Success

Pick one now. Be bold. Do it now!

1.Prioritize and Rank. Not everything is a priority. Make a list of everything that you believe needs to get done. Circle the top ten. Now, cut the list down to the top three. Rank them 1, 2, and 3. Do number 1 now. When it’s done, move on to number 2. Now, it’s time for number 3. Celebrate the completion of each task. If you actually do this one, you’ll be amazed by how much you get done.

2.Let Go. Not everything needs to happen immediately. If you need to file or shred papers, get an oil change for your vehicle, or buy holiday gifts, schedule it. Then, honor that time with focused energy. Make your calendar your friend.

3.Delegate. Stop being a lone ranger. Consider, your employees may do a better job than you would…if you let them. It’s a great gift to them…trusting them to do the work you normally do.

4.Do It for 20 minutes. We all have dreaded reports and other activities that we hate to do. Try this. Do it for 20 minutes. Then, decide if you wish to spend another 20 minutes or schedule it for later. This approach works.

5.Excuses Be Gone. Too often, we create excuses about why we haven’t completed something. Stop doing this! These mental gymnastics energy deplete you and sabotage your energy. Create a mantra: “I can do this and do it now.” The secret is, take the first step.

6.Stop Multitasking. Make a commitment to get one thing done at a time. There is satisfaction in fully completing something. While it may seem like multitasking allows you to get more things done, it rarely works that way. For example, attempting a business conversation while you are grocery shopping only adds stress. And, you will miss important points during that conversation.

7.Walk It Out. Take 10 minutes, three times daily, to simply walk around, go up and down the stairs, and MOVE! Remember to breathe! While out and about, say, “Hi!” to people and smile. This is one of the quickest ways to de-stress.

8.Talk It Out. Turn your internal monologues into dialogues. Get them out of your head. Share your concerns with someone who can actually help you. Now is the time to find a business coach for 2019 who can help you stay focused and improve your effectiveness. The relief you will feel is priceless.

9.Write It Out. Studies have shown it is cathartic when people write down their fears, upsets, and frustrations. Writing helps get negative thoughts out of your head and provides insights. The key is to keep things private and not share your written journal with others. Again, keep this private.

10.Meditate. Take time to quiet your mind from the mental chatter and be silent for several minutes. Sit comfortably. Focus on breathing in and out. When thoughts appear—and they will—say, “Noise.” Don’t make these thoughts good or bad. This highly effective method reduces stress and improves focus. And, you will feel refreshed.

11.Brag. When you learn how to brag, it is a huge self-confidence booster. Keep your Brag statements up-to-date and review them any time stress doesn’t go away. Or, when you need a confidence boost. They are also great when requesting a promotion or pay increase. Complete your Brag! statements today.

©Jeannette Seibly, 2018

Jeannette Seibly has been a catalyst and leadership expert for over 26 years. As an executive coach, speaker, and author, she provides straight talk with dynamic results. Remember, reducing stress improves your ability to focus and produce intended results. Hire a coach for even faster results. Check out her website, or contact Jeannette for a preliminary confidential conversation.

Improve Productivity by Focusing on the Right Things

Smarter.Not HarderMany busy professionals today are feeling overwhelmed because of their many commitments—to work, family, elder care, community and so on. They allow things to creep on to their to-do lists, often unconsciously. By failing to say no and take the right actions, their ever-growing list becomes overwhelming. Anxiety and exhaustion soon follow. Productivity falters, and often they develop a bad attitude.

Reduce Overwhelming Commitments Before They Reduce Productivity

Acknowledge Everything. Write or type a weekly to-do list of everything that needs to be done. Get the vague, undefined list out of your head to stop disruptive mental chatter. Include the simplest things (change a light bulb) to the most difficult (a presentation for the boss). Stay out of the details at this point.

Get Real. Next, cross off those things you will NOT do. Even a superwoman or superman can’t do everything and be a happy, productive person. Review the list again and cross off more items – tell the truth — you know what you will (or must) do and will not do. (This will require you to have conversations with family, friends and employees, letting them know up front what you are doing to keep your relationships strong.)

Clarity Is Key. Now, circle ONLY the top three items that must be done. Rank them. Get into action and focus on number one, now!

Focus and Stay in Action

Outline a Plan. Type or write out a short plan for each action item. Get with others to see what is missing from the plan and who can help. Then, create a timetable. Now, get into immediate action to ensure a feeling of productivity.

Focus. Talk with your boss and clarify the specific results he or she wants. This usually eliminates your mental chatter and clarifies what needs to be done. Focus only on result-oriented items and stop making the process bigger or more complicated than it needs to be.

Delegate. Who can you delegate the whole plan to, or specific items? Watch out for any control issues you may have. Understand that others will not tackle things the way you would. That’s OK. You will often find that they do a better job than you would have. During the process, review actions taken and expected results together. Fine-tune. You’re done!

Work with Your Team. Who can you include to make sure the results are great? At home, kids can load a dishwasher (remember, there are over 100 different ways to do it). Others on a committee can pitch in and help with setup and cleanup after an event. Employees can learn how to do a job, often more quickly than you think they can! Don’t nitpick their approach; focus on the right things, like the customer, outcome, number of attendees, timetable, etc.

Acknowledge. It is very important to appreciate others and their efforts, individually and as a team. Stop micromanaging. (Yes, I need to keep repeating this point.) Instead, fine-tune what is expected of others and brainstorm together to resolve any issues before they become problems.

©Jeannette Seibly, 2017

Need a speaker or facilitator for your company’s executive group? Have issues to address? Conflicts to resolve? Contact Jeannette Seibly. She will provide confidential, laser-focused coaching that works!

Jeannette Seibly is celebrating 25 years as a business coach, advisor and consultant. Do you have unresolved issues that you need to transform? Are you willing to make simple and effective changes? Check out her website , or contact Jeannette for a free confidential conversation.

Are You Organized for Success in 2017?

sample-3Too often we are not organized for success when we create goals and focused-action plans. We fail to take into account our interactions with others, our current habits and our ability to see beyond what we believe to be true. It’s common for people to be unaware of the attitudes and behaviors that stop them from making progress. This week we are going to blast past the hidden walls that stop us, and move forward.

Last week we addressed the first three hidden truths for why we’re stopped, 2017 Goals – Has Your Motivation Already Disappeared? This week we will delve into the next 3 of the 9 hidden truths to keep you moving forward, refer to, Your 2017 Goals are Meant to be Achieved.

Get Real!

Forgive. Forgiveness is for you, not them. It gets you back in action and moving forward again. The first step is to set aside your mental monologue and forgive yourself for what you said you would do and haven’t done, and things you’ve said and didn’t mean. Second, clean up any misunderstandings directly with the person, team or boss. Remember, your perceptions about them aren’t always right. Attempting to be a mind-reader rarely works about why they did what they did or said what they said. Now you’re ready to take the next focused-action step. By having cleared the disabling little voice in your head and resolved what needs to be done, you’ll be amazed by your renewed energy and your results from these efforts!

Get a Coach. It’s a fact that successful people hire coaches! (Think, Michael Jordan) However, many people are uncoachable; and, as a result, too many fail simply because they refuse to be told what to do! This “you can’t tell me what to do” filter that they listen through has caused many unnecessary project failures, business closings, lost sales, bankruptcies, and other business challenges. When you find yourself falling into this trap of “I already know that”, or “I’ve already done that” STOP! Creating solutions with the same attitude that created the problem will provide no new results! Instead, listen! Ask questions for clarification. New ideas (usually previously unimaginable) will percolate now since you are no longer being resistant! Update your focused-action plan after reviewing with your coach to ensure you and the team didn’t inadvertently create a bright shiny object that will distract everyone! Don’t change the goal! (For a strategic and confidential conversation, contact Jeannette Seibly.)

Organize. Your personal habits will impact your ability to organize your work space and manage the team’s activities effectively. Poor habits will impede achieving your intended results! Several poor habits are failing to: follow-up and follow-through on items that need to be done; manage the team’s results in a way they find value; schedule time to have conversations that make a positive difference; and conduct effective meetings where everyone is heard (to name a few). If you find yourself (or your team) putting off doing what needs to be done, schedule 20 minutes of uninterrupted focused action and see how much progress is made! The key is, focus, organize and take the right steps by scheduling work activities, conversations and consistent reviews with the team and, ever more importantly, honor them.

Next week, stay tune for the last 3 hidden truths that are often overlooked.

©Jeannette Seibly, 2017

Ready? Create a powerful 2017. Contact Jeannette Seibly She will guide you through an amazing exercise designed to complete 2016 and prepare you for a great 2017! One client sold her company for $.5M by completing the exercise yearly, prior to the sale!

Why is it important to learn how to brag? Being aware of your successes helps you take actions consistent with your commitment to achieve amazing results! Get your copy of, It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition today.

Jeannette Seibly is an international, award-winning business advisor. During the past 24 years, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and achieved million-dollar results for more than 25 companies. She is laser sharp at identifying the leverage points that will take a business and its team to the next level of performance and success. Check out her website, or contact Jeannette for a free, confidential conversation. Remember to get your copy of her 5th and newest book, It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition.

Your 2017 Goals are Meant to be Achieved

It’s that time of year to create resolutions, establish goals and visualize your successes! Sounds easy, doesn’t it? However, without designing the process for success and being aware of the hidden truths required to achieve your goals, you will probably ditch 2017 intentions within the next couple of weeks. How can you prevent that from happening?

3 Basics to Create 2017 Successes

Make your written goals specific. Create goals that are meaningful to you, your company, and family. For example, over 71% (a Gallup poll) of employees, business owners and entrepreneurs are working in jobs that they dislike. If you dislike your work responsibilities, your goal may be, “receive a job offer of _(fill in the blank)__ by June 1, 2017.” Or, since most employees are only unhappy because of their boss’s style and/or co-workers’ attitudes, your goal may be, “respect my boss and co-workers by finding value in their ideas daily.”

Take focused-action steps. Put together an action plan that will actually move you forward and produce the intended result. For example, receiving a million-dollars during 2017 may not be financially possible. However, creating a 5-year plan (or longer), learning about investments, saving instead of spending, and living within your income will get you there!

Track your progress. Success breeds more success. There are more ways to do this than I can ever describe. For example, I have posted on my bulletin board a graphic with boxes. Every time I receive $100 (you pick your amount), I color in a box to visually show my progress (there are days I color in a lot of boxes!). And, my 2017 goal is written on the back of the graphic.

9 Hidden Truths Required to Achieve Your Goals

Motivate. There will be times you just don’t feel like it! Remember, that little voice in your head is not necessarily your friend or the truth! In my newest book, It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition, Chapter 14, there are easy exercises to remind you of how amazing you really are and keep you motivated!

Pursue. Since most plans don’t work out according to the original plan, learn how to work through disappointment, mistakes or failures as they occur. Pursue solutions now before the challenge grows larger.

Trust. Learning to trust yourself only requires you to take one step daily. Create a realistic plan so you don’t attempt to run the entire marathon on your first, second, or third day (or week) of training. For example, if your goal is to write a book, trust yourself to write a chapter daily or weekly by scheduling the time and doing it. When you fail to do so, simply reschedule and get it done before you stop trusting yourself.

Forgive. Forgive yourself for what you said you would do and haven’t done, and things you’ve said and didn’t mean, etc. Clean up misunderstandings directly with the person, team or boss. Forgive others for what they have said or done. Remember, your perceptions aren’t always right, and sharing those perceptions with others will only create mischief!

Get a Coach. Too often we believe we need to rely only on ourselves. However, it’s a fact that successful people hire coaches! With the right tools and coach, you will blast through areas that are holding you back, create the right team and achieve the best solutions.

Organize. Organization helps you get things done faster by not wasting time looking for things and getting distracted. (Hint: schedule 20 minutes at a time to declutter and stay organized).

Expand. Open your mind by attending a class or workshop to learn something new.

Celebrate! Take time to celebrate the small and big successes, with yourself and with your team.

Believe! In yourself, your team, and your goals. This is your number one intention for the year! Without it, everything listed above will be for naught. (For additional insights, Is 2017 Your Year to Achieve Amazing Results? http://wp.me/p2POui-11u )

Your 2017 goals are meant to be achieved! Doing so will build success now and for your future.

©2017 Jeannette Seibly

Ready? Create a powerful 2017. Contact Jeannette Seibly @ http://SeibCo.com/contact  She will guide you through an amazing exercise designed to complete 2016 and prepare you for a great 2017! One client sold her company for $.5M by completing the exercise yearly, prior to the sale!

Why is it important to learn how to brag? Being aware of your successes helps you take actions consistent with your commitment to achieve amazing results! Get your copy of, It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition today: http://BizSavvyBrag.com.

Jeannette Seibly has been a business advisor and executive coach for 24 years; along the way she’s guided the creation of three millionaires. She is laser sharp at identifying the leverage points that will take a business and its team to the next level of performance and success. Check out her website, http://SeibCo.com , or contact Jeannette for a free, confidential conversation at http://SeibCo.com/contact. Remember to get your copy of her 5th and newest book, It’s Time to Brag! Business Edition: http://BizSavvyBrag.com.

Being a Leader Starts on the Inside

Successful leaders understand their success starts from within and is built on genuine confidence, competence and compassion — not false bravado. They know that leaders are not born as leaders, and they must do the work to earn their successes. They work smart and are respected by others, and many times (but not always) are liked by others too! Thus, they develop an inner leadership style that works for their employees, Board and customers, while effectively handling the outer actions required too.

As part of their commitment to being the best leader they can be, leaders hire an executive coach to help them achieve results and a mentor from within the industry to recognize new opportunities. These confidants help them recognize and fine-tune their blind spots and build their natural effectiveness. By inviting inside and outside perspectives, they build on their business experiences and improve their ability to make the right decisions for win-win-win outcomes.

Fine-tuning Your Inner Leader:

-Take responsibility for yourself and your decisions.

-Trust your inner voice to guide your words and actions, and realize the need to review ideas, thoughts, opinions and feelings with your coach and mentor for clarity. This helps you stay on the right path required to achieve your results.

-Value your ideas and others’ ideas too. Continue developing the fine art of working with and through others to build solutions.

-Respect yourself and others by listening without blame, judgment or criticism to elicit the best in others.

-Be comfortable with yourself, and ensure others are confident to follow your lead. Take the time to check in to ensure others are truly on the same page with you, not just parroting what you want to hear.

-Set aside your ego by sharing the credit and celebrating the successes of others.

-Create positive learning opportunities using the inevitable failures and mistakes often made. Teach by setting the right examples.

The strength of your leadership is a reflection of the authentic confidence, competence and compassion you have developed. Remember, it’s a lifelong process not a one-time event to become the leader you’ve always dreamed of being.

 “Successful leadership requires preparation and learning from any failures along the way!” Jeannette Seibly http://ow.ly/Kp34R

Jeannette Seibly has been an international business advisor and executive coach for over 23 years. She has guided the creation of countless leaders. Are you the next one? http://SeibCo.com/contact

©Jeannette Seibly, 2014-2016

Are you hanging on to things that need to be done?

The holidays can create a lot of stress with so many things needing to be done.

Have you considered … you don’t need to do them all?

First clarify, then, prioritize…Make a list (yes, check it twice). Now, highlight only the top two items. Stop committing to those things that aren’t going to support your priorities right now. Cross off those you are not going to do. When you have completed the top two, then, you can move on to your next two priorities, if they are still important.

Second, release. Instead of making excuses for what you don’t get done, or don’t want to do, let go of the should’s, could’s, would’s. They only sap your energy and you end up doing nothing.  Be careful of rationalizing excuses like, “It’s must not be that important if I don’t get it done.” There is always time to get done what you’re really committed to doing.

Now, take focused action. Interestingly, you are no longer overwhelmed. When you wake up each day, you are ready to get done what you need to do by focusing on top priorities. This quick three-step process will provide you with the energy you need to enjoy your holidays (and your work days).

Remember, your mental monologue is not your friend! Stop listening to it. Stick with the clarity of your top priorities and do them. Now, joy and ease can naturally occur.

Enjoy your holidays!

©Jeannette L. Seibly, 2015

Jeannette Seibly has been a business advisor and facilitator for over 23 years; she guides the creation of new solutions for business challenges and is the author of over 300 articles and 4 published books designed to help business leaders lead from excellence.  Check out her website: http://SeibCo.com or contact Jeannette at http://SeibCo.com/contact.



Are you career ready for sky-high success?

Working smart today does not require climbing up the rungs on the traditional career ladder — working hard, long hours and patiently biding your time until an opportunity occurs. Instead it requires career readiness, job fit and focused action to achieve sky-high success, while developing the career muscles required physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally to support your ascent. Attempting to ascend before you’re ready can cause a descent that hinders your future.

9 career fitness work-outs to move upward

Develop the muscles for:

  • Excellence. Accepting mediocrity is a cop-out. We’ve all heard about the 10,000 hours required to become a master. It’s simple. Take the time to learn your job and delve into the details to build mental readiness. You will become recognized as an expert in your profession – now the career fun begins.
  • Building job depth and breadth by learning the different facets of your job. This will build natural credibility, new opportunities, fun and financial rewards.
  • Eliciting the best from others … whether it is your boss, client, co-worker or vendor!
  • Designing, planning and executing programs and plans. This is where many professionals fail. This requires managing a dual focus: developing the individuals on your team while superbly handling technical and others issues (e.g., budget, time, legal, systems, etc.) that arise.
  • Handling success and failure! Everyone naturally wants to be successful. However, the secret to building inner strength as a leader is to deal with failure and turn it around. This develops emotional and spiritual readiness. The process helps you handle, and not shy away from, the tougher issues, the mark of a durable leader.
  • Strong verbal and non-verbal communication skills. These are required to express yourself, while helping and supporting others to do the same.
  • Listening to learn your occupation, company and industry.
  • Bridging the gaps by taking time to listen to others’ ideas and construct win-win pathways to turn ideas into solutions.
  • Helping others succeed. This helps you build your own success. Remember, givers get. Having a sole focus on yourself will hinder your upward progression towards sky-high success.

Last, but not least, remember, every up-and-coming person has a coach. Hire one today. This will provide you the ability to ascend upward at a pace that works best for you.

©Jeannette Seibly, 2015

To ensure you’re on the career path that fits you and prepares you for future opportunities, contact SeibCo.com/contact

Jeannette Seibly is an award-winning and internationally recognized business advisor. For the past 23 years, she has helped thousands of people work smarter, enjoy financial freedom, and realize their dreams now.  She has an uncanny ability to help her clients identify roadblocks, and help them focus to quickly produce unprecedented results.  Each client brings their own unique challenges, and her gift is helping each one create their success in their own unique way. Along the way, with her commitment, she helped create three millionaires.

Asking for Help Makes You a Better Leader

It’s the trademark of many successful business leaders.

Here’s why we don’t ask:

  • – We rationalize we don’t have time to ask for help.
  • – We are afraid to ask for clarification of a project due to our pride.
  • – We naively believe we know what our boss, company and clients need without asking them for their input.

As a result, we lose countless hours of productivity and fail to achieve intended results. These lost opportunities cost companies millions and may sabotage your career!

A true story! Someone was late for a meeting due to lack of planning on where the restaurant was located. They couldn’t find the restaurant and simply gave up. They didn’t ask for help or use technology (411 (directory assistant), GPS, or MapQuest), and, the restaurant was only 2 miles away!

Question: Would you want to work with someone who won’t ask for help? 

Answer: Probably not. And, we’ll never know the opportunities they lost out on!

Get in action. Stop rationalizing why you are afraid to ask others for their input. Asking questions of others takes less time and energy than rationalizing! When seeking advice, we become more competent and confident. The process helps us resolve issues, move forward to complete stopped projects, or achieve our intended outcome faster. Asking for help allows us to follow through and sets us apart from our competition.

Work smarter, not harder, means asking for clarification up front. Ask relevant questions, truly listen and stay on point in the conversation. It can take less than two minutes to ask a question, and that simple act can save mega time, money and frustration so you don’t do unnecessary work. Although the response may take 20 minutes, pay now or pay later. (Think, 20 minutes now vs. 20+ hours later attempting to resolve the issue and save the relationship.)

Plan ahead for 100% success. Ask your advisor, vendor, co-worker or boss about potential breakdowns and pitfalls. They are a reality. Known challenges will not stop you when you plan for them. It’s the unknown that limits our ability for a successful outcome.

Don’t be afraid to stretch the limits. Use technology, ask people, meet with advisors and review systems for new opportunities that allow you to push the envelope. But, don’t have them cost you price, service or functionality. New ideas are great, but, may not be beneficial if implemented without the proper due diligence and asking enough questions of the right people.

©Jeannette L. Seibly, 2010-2015

 Jeannette Seibly is laser sharp at identifying the leverage points that will take a business and its team to the next level of performance and success. Her unique combination of strategic and tactical people and business experiences includes being execution-oriented, customer-focused and business results-focused. She has guided the creation of three millionaires and countless million-dollar results for companies and not-for-profits. She is an innovator who loves producing amazing results with and through others, on time and within budget, as a team.

Can an Apology Save Your Career?

Most of us believe we are not responsible for our expressions and actions. Many leaders and co-workers reinforce poor interpersonal practices (saying, “That’s OK.” “No problem.” “I do that too.”). We fail to address the aftermath of any damage done by our actions and words. In our busy-ness we often allow ourselves to be distracted in our conversations because we are thinking of other things we need to do or formulating rebuttals. By the time we open our mouths, out pops something critical or negative and not on point in the conversation.

The problem is twofold. First, we take it personally when others express themselves frankly and truthfully. Second, we expect others to get over the things we say or do at their expense, including when we violate an agreement. Sadly, we are so adamant about our right to be right that when they extend an olive branch to let us know they are concerned or upset and wish to resolve the problem, we swat them down.

Being aware and conscious before you say something inappropriate and choosing not to say it works best. When that fails and the words slip out, apologizing can quickly save a brilliant career. When you have offended someone, stop and review your action or words from their perspective. Saying “I apologize,” “I’m so sorry,” “Please forgive me,” or “It was not my intention to … ” can build a healthy bridge toward healing relationships, building trust and loyalty, creating effective work teams, and soliciting better ideas. Remember, your attitude and behaviors carry a lot of weight—use them appropriately.

©Jeannette Seibly, 2010-2015

Jeannette Seibly is a business advisor for business owners and executives of $5MM to $30MM enterprises creating million dollar results, and along the way guided the creation of three millionaires. Contact her at JLSeibly@SeibCo.com for a free consultation of how to achieve amazing results.

To get career fit, contact SeibCo today: http://SeibCo.com/contact

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