
Being a boss today is not easy and learning how to excel is surprisingly not hard. But it does take time, energy and an interest in developing and using the necessary skills.
According to a Gallup poll, over 71 percent of employees are in jobs that don’t fit them (and includes people in “boss” positions). Bosses with poor managerial styles are often the No. 1 reason employees leave.
So, although it is not easy being a boss today, you can improve your boss savvy. Here’s how.
First, Not Everyone Should Be a Boss! (We need to get this out of the way.)
See if any of these situations apply to you:
- -If you have been (or are) a top performer, you excelled as an independent contributor. While you may have the necessary people or project management skills, many times you don’t have the interest in managing people on a daily basis. If this is the case, redesigning your job responsibilities or going back to being an independent contributor would be best for your career.
- -If you do have the interest in developing the skills, ask for help. The key is to hire a coach and follow through as part of your normal daily actions.
- -Remember, if you are fired, talk about your failures and successes with a therapist or career coach who can help you get real about future careers that fit you!
Second, Improving Your Boss Skills Requires Interest, Time and Energy on a Daily Basis
First, ask yourself if you are really interested in putting in the time and energy to develop yourself to be a great boss. If you answered yes, here are actions you can take:
- -Take workshops to develop project and people management skills (e.g., learn how to hire well, coach people, manage for unprecedented results, make better decisions, etc.).
- -Select an internal company mentor. He or she can help you navigate written policies and unwritten expectations.
- -Hire an external coach to confidentially eliminate the controversial “shoulds” of how employees are supposed to act. Being able to vent and not worry about future promotions and job opportunities is critical. Work with a coach who uses qualified assessments and qualified 360-feedback assessments to guide you in developing a natural style that works for you and others!
Third, It’s No Longer Just About You
And, here’s why…
- -Being a great boss means it’s no longer about you! (Yes, that needed to be repeated!) You need to be available for your employees, find them the necessary resources and support their efforts.
- -You have a responsibility to balance the needs of the company, your peers and all employees in an ethical and fair manner, while supporting customers and vendors too!
- -You have to be willing to do the right things the right way by following policies and procedures. AND, you have to know when to step outside of the norm to handle special circumstances.
- -Lack of integrity (e.g., fudging numbers, gossiping, theft, playing favorites), lack of compassion, failing to listen or stealing others’ ideas are the fastest ways to torpedo your success.
- -Your potentially biggest pitfall? If you want to be liked more than respected. Many times, this type of boss makes ineffective or inappropriate decisions. Great bosses are both liked and respected.
Fourth, Ongoing Development Is Required
What does that mean?
- -Great bosses hire a coach and do the work. They know there are no shortcuts.
- -Take courses or programs (e.g., supervisory, communication, leadership and project management) designed to help you understand yourself and your hidden biases. Workshops give you insights into fine-tuning your approach to get the results you want to achieve.
- -Annually (yes, once a year) take a refresher course on employment and legal updates. Focus on how to prevent negative issues from occurring.
By paying attention to the challenges and solutions raised in this article, you will learn how to excel and be a great boss…if you have the interest to do so.
©Jeannette Seibly, 2017
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The old mindset of how to identify future leaders has changed. Due to technology advancements, geographical influences, and financial and people demands, leadership requirements have evolved to a new level. As a result, many companies have waited too long. They now are having difficulty finding and developing the right leadership to handle today’s business challenges.
Too often, words come out of our mouths that we vowed we would never say. And, to make matters worse, our tone sounds harsh or critical. Believe it or not, as bosses we often sound like our parents did when we were growing up. Imagine sounding like your critical parents when you’re speaking to your employees. Yikes!
No one is born a leader—leadership skills are built over time as a result of experience, practice, commitment and then mastery. When we attain a leadership position within our company, it’s important that we have already learned how to work with and through others to get the job done on time and within budget. Now it’s time to take those basic skills and hone them. At every level of leadership comes a new level of responsibility and opportunity. Are you ready to build on those skills to successfully support yourself and the people you lead?
Ask yourself: The last time you made a mistake, did you try to bury it or openly learn from it?
“A coach has you do what you don’t want to do so you can be successful!” Jeannette Seibly
An administrative assistant hated her new boss—a woman who was her age but made a lot more money than she did. The assistant’s husband suggested she learn from her new boss instead of hating her. With his coaching and her boss’s ability to manage with laser-like effectiveness, the assistant was given a project that she excelled at. The boss (and her husband) congratulated her on a job well done. With this newfound confidence, she enrolled in college courses, was promoted within her company and eventually became the manager of the department. All it took was creating the right career path instead of relying on the normal trial and error used by many bosses to develop good employees into great ones.
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