Bosses are human too, or so they (like us) often forget. Many employees have good, or at least tolerable bosses that listen to employee ideas. It’s particularly difficult to get your ideas and points across when you have a bad boss. If you have this challenge, consider whether it could be your attitude or behavior that’s the cause:
1) Before a conversation with your boss, practice in front of a mirror; pay particular attention to your facial expressions. Tape record what you wish to say, and listen to the words you choose. Some words can cause an emotional reaction before your idea is fully presented.
2) Listen to learn. Most people are reactionary. Someone says “x” and we’re off talking about “y” before the person has had a chance to complete their first sentence. Listen carefully to what they have to say. Pause and count to three before responding, after they’ve completed talking.
3) Stick to the facts. We can become emotionally charged on certain issues. Before your meeting or presentation to your boss, research the facts, so that you have objective points. Be able to provide possible solutions and be open to considering new options you hadn’t considered.
(c)Jeannette Seibly 2010