Jeannette Seibly | SeibCo, LLC

What Do You Focus on as a Leader?

February 19, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“Focusing on problems limits solutions. Focusing on new possibilities and ideas multiplies solutions.” Jeannette Seibly

We’ve all heard the saying, “What you focus on expands.” We nod, but are not clear about what that really means.

Most leaders and bosses focus on:

The problem at hand and various ways to fix it in that moment
Something someone said and allow it to be replayed over and over, usually perceived as negative
An upset with a neighbor or family member who is not behaving according to their standards and allow it to take up mental and emotional space

Yet, the problems persist because we continue to focus on them.

You mistakenly believe by continually replaying the problem in your mind, that you’ll find the answer and will uncover something new. But in truth, your awareness is only focused on right v. wrong, and not on solving the issue.

Why do you keep replaying problems?

The issue seems insurmountable and hopeless
You tried once and failed
The other person isn’t listening and is wrong in their point of view
Your boss or team got upset when the issue was mentioned
You consider yourself a firefighter, not a solution provider

These patterns keep you stuck in the problem instead of moving toward solutions.

How to Create Solutions

Recognizing the above listed patterns is the first step, and intentionally shifting your focus toward solutions is the next, with each step building on the others to move you from problem‑fixation to solution‑focused leadership.

Engage in Curiosity. Too often, you fail to look at an issue from someone else’s point of view. You don’t ask open‑ended questions and assume you know the answers.

A team member who continually arrives late causes everyone to start the meeting over. This can be very annoying. But when talking with him, you find out it’s a child‑care issue. If you scheduled the meeting a half hour later, he’d be there when it started. This is what focusing on solutions looks like … asking questions to shift from assumptions to understanding.

Address the Core Issue. Once curiosity opens the door, the next step is addressing what’s really going on. It seems easier to place a band‑aid on everything. You and others claim, “We fixed it.” You may have for the moment, but in the very near future, it’ll only get worse since the core issue wasn’t addressed. This costs the company time, money, and retention of employees and customers.

Customer service had to do double entry when a customer called in. The tech people shrugged their shoulders and said, “It is the way it is.” When talking with a testing company, they said, “Look for this core coding issue.” They did, and were able to solve the problem. Productivity and customer and employee satisfaction rose.

Participate in Brainstorming. Once the core issue is identified, brainstorming opens up new possibilities.

As a leader or boss, too often, the following get in the way of true brainstorming, and limits your ability to focus on broader possibilities:

You have a false belief you must know all the answers. This is nonsense and limits potential solutions.
You’re afraid of the time and energy required to brainstorm, or like most leaders, you lack the skills to be an effective facilitator.
When someone makes off‑the‑wall statements, you roll your eyes and shake your head. You just don’t have the patience to listen to another bad idea. After all, you think, “We should be focused on the problem.”
Your biases limit hearing what’s possible (e.g., the person offering the idea). This keeps you focused on the problem and leaves your team feeling disempowered to solve it.

Facilitation tips:

Consider creating five reasons why any idea could work.
Ask open‑ended questions to get people thinking outside the norm.
Don’t be afraid of silence. This will force people to offer ideas that they’re afraid to say.

A department was struggling with missed deadlines. During a brainstorming session, one team member suggested eliminating two long‑standing reports. The leader almost dismissed the idea as “ridiculous” since those reports had been required for years. But after asking for five reasons the idea could work, the team discovered no one actually used the reports anymore. Eliminating them freed up hours each week, reduced errors, and improved turnaround time. What looked like a “ridiculous idea” became the breakthrough solution.

Take Action Now. Brainstorming only works when followed by action. Now that you have a proposed solution, assign tasks and get into action. Thinking about or talking more about it only keeps the problem around longer. Yes, there will be fine‑tuning required and needed conversations that were previously overlooked (e.g., getting input from employees who are directly impacted).

As you move forward, be flexible while focused on the solution.

When a large company made a major change to their technology platform, they forgot to ask the users for their input fearing it would take too much time. The results were horrendous and expensive. It was the main reason it took years before another company would buy out their assets.

Jeannette Seibly is a Leadership Results Coach, Talent Advisor, and Business Author with 33 years of experience activating greatness in leaders and companies. She delivers practical coaching and solutions that elevate performance today, build legacies that stand the test of time, and support people empowering themselves to lead with clarity and impact.

Ready to shift your focus from problems to solutions? When you take this simple but not easy step, your solutions expand and so does your impact as a leader. It may feel unclear at first, especially when old habits keep pulling your attention back to what’s wrong. Don’t let that stall your progress. Contact me to get into focused action and start now.

When Good Employees Stop Communicating

February 16, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“When an employee goes out of communication, good leaders step in and resolve the issue.” Jeannette Seibly

It’s important for leaders and bosses, actually crucial, to recognize when employees stop asking for help, information, or background insight when addressing and learning about a new assignment, new client, or workplace changes.

When employees, even top talent, fail to ask or update you, it’s not because they already know their job so well. It’s because they remember the bad vibe they received the last time they asked you for help. Or, they lack insight into potential challenges or opportunities. Or, it’s because they have simply given up.

Silence is rarely about whether or not your employees knowing their job. It’s almost always about psychological safety, trust, or past experiences.

A few of the many red flags to pay attention to and resolve:

Drop in quality
Errors rise
Morale erodes
Attitude shift from positive to neutral or negative
Assignments are late
Team members or customers are complaining

As the leader and boss, being proactive can prevent upsets, frustrations, and miscommunication. Ignoring the red flags only widens the communication gap and makes a good employee-leader relationship harder.

Solutions to Resolve an Employee’s Lack of Communication

Communication Is Required for Successful Employee-Boss Interactions

When making new assignments, or when there has been a change in client engagements, even slight, it’s important to have a pow‑wow and talk through these small but never insignificant changes. Even if it is about a co‑worker or team issue, talking it out instead of waiting it out keeps people communicating and intended results occurring. Silence grows in spaces where leaders assume instead of ask.

Solution: Embrace the tough conversations; these can offer the greatest rewards. Get in communication with your executive coach if you’re concerned about what and how to do this.

The Employee Was Moved to a Different Position or Given Responsibilities That Don’t Fit Them

Too often, we ignore job fit as an important component of someone’s success in the job. But when you place employees in jobs that don’t fit them, silence ensues. Misalignment creates insecurity, and insecurity shuts down communication. Not only does this diminish the employee feeling valued, it’s the most expensive and overlooked issue in companies today.

Ask these questions, “Have you placed:

A detail‑oriented person in a high‑ambiguity role?
A creative thinker in repetitive tasks?
A technical expert into a manager role?
A conflict‑averse employee in a negotiation role?”

These scenarios don’t support their growth, and they will avoid you out of fear of you finding out they are failing.

One company took a top‑producing inside sales person and placed him in an outside sales role in a different state per the employee’s request. He failed miserably, and the few times he asked for help, the boss didn’t know how to help him since he didn’t have objective data to guide him or the knowledge of how to best coach the person. The employee eventually took a job with a competitor. Job fit isn’t optional … it’s foundational.

Solution: Get employees back in jobs that naturally fit them, even if they made the request for a job change. Without objective data, you cannot make a valid decision and will make an error in changing their job.

Check in on You: A Change in Your Leadership Habits

Answer these questions:

Are you normally good at responding to your employees? But now are short-tempered.
Do you keep the door open for their questions? But now keep it closed?
Have you had a difficult interaction with your boss, board, co‑workers, or other team members?
Have you failed to get the issue resolved?
Have you experienced a personal or professional failure or mistake?

If you’ve answered yes to more than one of these questions, its impacting employees feeling comfortable talking with you. Yes, really. Remember, nonverbal communication accounts for more than 90 percent of what someone is communicating (gestures, tone, energy level).

Leaders and bosses love to think staying quiet about their own challenges protect their employees, and hope the issue resolve itself. It rarely does. Staying quiet and withdrawing actually leaks into other areas of your leadership and management styles. Employees stop wanting to talk with you since you’re not focused on them, just yourself. Your silence signals that communication isn’t valued, even if that’s not your intention.

Solution: Hire an executive coach and get this handled ASAP. Waiting only makes it worse and can take a small issue and balloon it into a huge one.

Jeannette Seibly is a Leadership Results Coach, Talent Advisor, and Business Author with 33 years of experience guiding leaders and executives to achieve exceptional results. She delivers practical coaching and innovative solutions for hiring, leadership development, and performance success. Successful leaders have coaches—connect with Jeannette to elevate your results and impact in 2026.

Communication is the backbone of any employee‑leader/boss relationship. If an employee has gone quiet, it’s up to you to resolve the issue. Contact me for a confidential conversation to identify the gaps and strengthen your impact as a leader.

You’re Too Young to Be Complacent About Your Dreams and Ideas

February 12, 2026February 12, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“We all have ideas bouncing around in our heads. The time to unleash and release them is now, or forever regret it.” Jeannette Seibly

You’re too young, at any age, to be complacent about your dreams and ideas. Complacency is not your friend, especially when goals, desires, and unfinished projects are still waiting to be started or shared. Regrets don’t come from ideas pursued; they come from doing nothing with them. And those regrets last a lifetime.

We like to believe we have time to create and leave our legacy. But tomorrow, next year, or “someday” is not guaranteed. Five people in my life recently passed away, still young, still full of dreams. Time doesn’t wait.

So, what are you waiting for?

Many of us are waiting for:

Permission from people who are not going to give it
Signs from the universe that you’ve already missed, if they existed at all
Money or inheritance from a fictional ancestor
Motivation to get started

Now is the time to get into action by taking small steps forward.

Tips to Move Forward Now

Get it out of your head. We all have ideas and goals that have lived in our heads for a while. But dreams die if we don’t take action. Giving your idea or dreams to someone else may be the answer, but they won’t fulfill on them the same way you would, won’t have the same vision, or may not do anything at all since the idea wasn’t theirs.

Write it down, draw it, or code it. Do NOT edit or review while unloading your thoughts. Make notes about research to be done, but do NOT conduct the research yet.

Write that first terrible draft for a book or article. Don’t beat yourself up. It won’t be perfect or publishable. If you’re comparing yourself to published authors, remember: you’re looking at their finished book while you’re still on Chapter 1. They took the time to write, rewrite, and get help.
Draw the first schematic or outline the initial system for any technology or mechanical initiative.
Have conversations about the program, nonprofit, or project. Some people won’t agree or may want to take it in a different direction. Don’t overlook their input. When working with a group, it’s important to build alignment. Bigger and better ideas are often the result.

Walk away (1 hour or 1 day), then review. Conduct research. Rewrite or reconfigure. Also, check viability.

Here’s why:

When writing historical fiction, it’s easier to see the time period may not match the situation at hand.
When I sought funding for a 501(c)3, I was told it would take two years. Even though I got it done in three months without investors, it took conversations and openness to others’ input.

Beware of the “Boring Arena.” This is where many people give up and quit. It’s time to do the real work that produces results. Before you can launch an idea, the work or prototype must be completed. This is the real work.

During this time, new ideas will pop up. Put them in a file.
Shiny Object Syndrome will activate. Thank it for sharing. STAY FOCUSED.
It can be tedious writing a set number of words per day, redrafting to meet specs, finding more issues than solutions. STAY WITH IT.
Consider: Can you delegate or ask for help? Is there part of the process someone can take over? NOW, ASK.
Problems will seem insurmountable. Remember: every problem is an opportunity in disguise. But only if you look. Many times, these opportunities create “eureka moments!” TALK WITH YOUR COACH.

Example: I had many ideas and new characters show up while writing my first historical novel, The Old Wooden Rocker, The Illusion of Family: Book 1. But I stayed focused. Now Books 2 through 5 of The Illusion of Family series are being written.

Remember, not everyone, especially you, will be excited about this phase of the process. But the work must be done after the initial excitement has died.

Stay focused and honor your commitment. Results will happen!

Recently, my neighbor and I conducted a drive for items to donate to a homeless pets’ nonprofit. We didn’t belabor the idea. We agreed, got outside support, and made it happen (flyers, boxes, reminders). Then came the boring part: waiting. Some days, no one added anything to the boxes. Yet, when the drive ended, we had a lot of items to deliver.

Let others have the critical eye. When you’ve done what you can, share appropriately. Editors, bosses, or customers will have questions. Be prepared. If you don’t know the answer, say, “I don’t know yet. What are your thoughts?” Write them down. Conduct research.

Unless your project or book is only for friends and family, do NOT overlook getting outside help. Many books fail due to DIY poor editing, cover design, and formatting. They forget the book or project is for readers and recipients. Many book and projects get tabled because they don’t stand out from everything else on the market.

Other often-overlooked complacency considerations:

Use copyrights on all creative endeavors. Google “copyright” for more information. (Remember: unless otherwise agreed, any work done on company time is owned by the company.)
At one point, you will be uncomfortable. Your excuses will get louder. Ask yourself, “Am I more committed to my excuses or my commitment?” I ask myself when complacency sets in, “If I only had six months to live, would this be important?” If yes, I get busy.
You may give in to thinking this is not meant to be. Yes, publishing a book takes time and money. No, you likely won’t get a big-name publisher offering big bucks. Become resourceful. There are many ways to get a project, book, or idea funded. Talk with investors, objective people with nothing to gain, and your boss or team members.
When sharing an idea outside your employer (and sometimes inside), have an NDA (non-disclosure agreement) signed. I once told an inventor to get an NDA. He didn’t. The company he pitched to, violated their verbal promise and went to market faster than he could … they had the money, he lost out.

Your dreams, projects, and ideas are counting on you. Honor them. Start now. When complacency kicks in, take the next small step and keep going until the work is done.

Complacency happens frequently for many people with great ideas. Don’t let it get in the way of you achieving your dreams, goals, and purpose. Contact me to get into focused action and start now.

Believing You’re the Exception Is a Very Expensive Leadership Mistake to Make

February 9, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“When you feel that you’re the exception to the rules and policies because of your job title, you can destroy your career and company.” Jeannette Seibly

Has this ever happened to you?

Believing you’re the exception to the rules
Ignoring basic business practices because you think they don’t apply to you
Getting upset when employees mimic your behavior as if the rules don’t apply to them either
Feeling embarrassed or defensive when your decisions are questioned
Relying on gut reactions instead of objective data and the company pays the price for it

Believing you’re the exception doesn’t elevate you … it accelerates your downfall.

It’s the fastest way to fail as a leader
Trouble follows quickly
You put your career at risk
You put yourself, your team, and your company in danger
You’re seen as going “off the rails” and not trustworthy

Leaders who see themselves as exempt from basic business practices inevitably create the very problems they think they’re avoiding.

This is when you must dial up your humility and dial down your ego.

The bottom line: Leaders fail fast when they believe they’re the exception to the rules. It’s the most expensive mistake they can make.

Example: Too often, these leaders don’t follow their own hiring policies because they believe they can tell who is going to be a good fit (aka intuitive hiring). Without using objective data during their hiring process, it’s predictable (and avoidable) they will experience of turnover, disengagement, customer loss, and lawsuits.

It’s Time to Get Real and Drop the Superiority Mindset

Leaders who do this strengthen their credibility, improve decision‑making, and create workplaces where people want to stay and contribute.

Remember, you can’t go back and undo business errors, repair a damaged reputation overnight, or easily recover from financial failure. But you can prevent them by setting aside your ego and being aware of how often you hold yourself as the exception to the rules.

Develop trust. Your ego can make you difficult to work with, especially if you dismiss others’ input or rely too heavily on your own instincts. When your ego (male or female) kicks in, pause. Breathe. Identify what triggered you. Then re‑enter the conversation with curiosity instead of defensiveness. This simple reset builds trust and keeps communication productive.

Grow your emotional intelligence. Your interpersonal skills may need recalibrating. If you’ve relied on your title, financial status, or the ability to push or manipulate situations or people into compliance, you’ll miss important details and then blame others when things go wrong. That pattern drives away top talent, customers, investors, and financing. Strengthening emotional intelligence helps you listen better, respond better, and lead better.

Be realistic. When you assume you’re performing better than you are, mistakes happen. Sometimes big ones that are difficult, if not impossible, to fix.

Overconfidence blinds leaders to risks such as:

Incorrect accounting practices
Technical issues you were warned about
Poor hiring and management decisions
Recurring quality problems
Miscommunication created by employees trying to protect themselves

Staying grounded and realistic keeps you proactive instead of reactive.

Build competence. Leaders who let their ego drive their decisions often struggle with people issues, technology concerns, or financial responsibilities. Competence can be built. Skills can be learned. Job fit can be found. But only when ego steps aside. Seek out an executive coach, and hire the person now.

Ask for help. When your ego blocks delegation or collaboration, you limit your own success. Believing you’re the only one who can do something “the right way” slows progress and increases burnout. Leaders who ask for help, share responsibility, and trust others build stronger teams and better outcomes.

Your leadership grows when you set your ego aside. When you realize you are not the exception to the rules, you elevate your leadership. You make better decisions, build stronger relationships, and create a culture where people feel safe to contribute their best ideas. You also protect your reputation, your business, and your future. Great leaders aren’t defined by being the exception. They’re defined by their willingness to learn, listen, and grow.

Every step in the right direction, away from the belief you are the exception to the rules, strengthens your leadership and sets the tone for your team, your company, and your legacy. Contact me. Your leadership growth starts now.

Communication Has Always Been Hard

February 5, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Quote: “When we fail to take the time to learn the skills required to be effective, we make communication hard.” Jeannette Seibly

What’s hard about communication is that it requires courage, clarity, and care. It takes time, intention, and experience to teach us that communication is not just a skill, it is a responsibility. Legacy‑minded leaders understand that how they communicate today shapes the trust, stability, and direction others carry forward tomorrow.

Leaders who succeed take responsibility for both sides of communication. They ensure they are heard, and they take responsibility for how others hear them. They treat communication as a two‑way process, not a one‑way act. This is the mark of a leader who understands long‑term influence and impact.

The Communication Crisis

Today’s environment makes communication even more challenging:

AI, messaging systems, and lower reading levels have weakened clear expression.
Emotional reactivity makes people easily offended, afraid of the blow-back, or hesitant to tell the truth.
Social media distortions cause people to trust posts over people, even when the post is wrong.

After discovering an obvious online error, one employee asked, “Why would they write something that wasn’t true?” Errors happen for many reasons: multitasking, poor attention to detail, lack of verification, and failure to consider impact. Yet people still believe what fits their comfort zone.

This is why leaders must stay alert. If you weren’t there, you don’t know the facts. And yet people talk as if they do. Legacy‑minded leaders pause, verify, and respond with steadiness.

Common Communication Challenges and Solutions

The myth of “I’ve got it handled.” Effective communication is a lifelong process. If you think you’ve mastered it, you’re already behind. Everyone listens through filters and those filters shift with world changes. Remember, you don’t have it handled.

Leaders who rely on ego fail. “It’s up to them to understand me.” Leaders who continually improve their communication style succeed. Legacy leaders know mastery is never final; it is sustained through humility and practice.

Know your audience. People learn and process information differently. Your job is to keep it simple.

Use words that match the listener’s ability to understand
Avoid insider language (jargon)
Don’t speak to show your education; speak to create clarity
Use open‑ended questions to engage others

When leaders talk too much, offer no context, or make everything about themselves, people tune out.

Getting everyone on the same page takes responsibility and patience.
As one leader said during a listening exercise, “This listening stuff is too hard.” (It may be why he closed his company’s doors.)
Legacy leaders know listening is fundamental.

Use tools that help people understand. Legacy leaders use tools to illuminate, not impress. When someone struggles to understand you:

Use graphs
Use flowcharts
Use physical examples
And above all, keep it simple

Communication is more than words. Words are only a fraction of communication (research has shown only 7 percent). Over 90 percent relies on tone, gestures, impatience, and emotional expressions that can destroy your message. Legacy leaders understand that self‑awareness is a responsibility, not a luxury.

Brainstorming. Legacy leaders know great ideas often come from unexpected places so they create the conditions for those ideas to surface. Brainstorming generates ideas, solves problems, and elevates people’s sense of value. But it requires strong facilitation.

Use Round Robin input (go around more than once)
Value each person’s input, even when you disagree
Keep examples on point
Don’t dismiss off‑the‑wall ideas; they may hold insight
Use open‑ended questions to keep people talking and listening

Avoid communicating “I don’t value you.” Good leaders avoid behaviors that send the wrong message.

“I’m too busy.”
Multitasking (the brain cannot do two things at once)
Talking over someone
Having a ready answer before they finish talking
Unexamined biases, judgments, and attitudes
Dismissing or joking about others’ ideas or questions

Make the commitment to improve your communication style. It starts by hiring the right coach. Communication is often a leadership blind spot and is fixable. Legacy leaders develop and strengthen communication skills because they understand the long‑term negative impact of ignoring them.

Effective communication has always been hard and requires courage, clarity, and care. Also, it requires awareness, emotional intelligence, and the willingness to take responsibility for what you say and how you say it. Legacy leadership demands nothing less.

Leaders must stay alert. You have what it takes to make a difference. It starts with your ability to communicate effectively. Contact me to learn how.

Communication Realities Every Leader Must Understand

February 2, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“Leaders, it’s important to take responsibility for your communication style to achieve intended results.” Jeannette Seibly

Leaders must understand that communication requires courage, clarity, and care. It takes time, intention, and experience to teach us that communication is not just a skill, it is a responsibility.

Effective leaders do their best not to hurt feelings while ensuring they understand and are understood.

Leaders who succeed take responsibility for both sides of communication. They ensure they are heard and consider how others hear them. Communication is a two‑way process, not a one‑way act.

None of this is new, but the stakes today are higher.

The Modern Communication Crisis

Today’s work environment makes communication even more challenging:

AI, messaging systems, and lower reading levels weaken clear expression.
Emotional reactivity makes people easily offended, afraid of the side effects, or hesitant to tell the truth.
Social media distortions cause people to trust posts over real conversations.

One employee, after discovering an online error, asked, “Why would they write something that wasn’t true?” Errors happen due to multitasking, poor attention to detail, lack of verification, and not understanding the impact on others. Yet people believe what fits their comfort zone.

It’s why leaders must stay alert. Remember, if you weren’t there, you don’t know the facts and many people talk as if they do know.

Common Communication Challenges and Solutions

Know your audience. People learn and process information differently. When leaders talk too much, offer no context, or make everything about themselves, people tune out. Learn to keep it simple.

Use words people can understand
Avoid insider language (jargon)
Speak for clarity, not to show expertise
Use open‑ended questions to engage others

Use tools that help people understand. When someone struggles to understand you, help them out.

Use graphs
Use flowcharts
Use physical examples
Keep it simple

Communication is more than words. Tone, gestures, impatience, and emotional reactions can undermine your message. If this happens often, reflect. If it persists, work with an executive coach. If deeper patterns appear, explore them with a therapist. Many habits come from old roles we’ve outgrown.

Perception shapes reality. This requires taking responsibility for how people hear you and each other. Everyone listens through their own filter and these filters shift with world and company changes.

Brainstorming and Storytelling. Good communication skills make brainstorming productive and helps people feel valued. Storytelling inspires only when done well.

Use Round‑Robin input (go around more than once)
Value each person’s contribution
Keep stories on point and don’t lose the thread mid-story
Don’t dismiss unusual ideas
Use open‑ended questions to keep people talking and listening

What leaders must avoid doing when talking and listening with others. These blind spots are fixable and communicate one message: “I don’t value you.”

“I’m too busy.”
Multitasking
Talking over someone
Having a ready answer before they finish talking
Unexamined biases and judgments
Being dismissive or joking about others’ ideas

You may not be aware that your communication style is getting in the way of achieving your intended results. Blind spots are very difficult to see. Contact me for a confidential conversation to identify the gaps and strengthen your impact as a leader.

Are You Feeling Restless and Not Clear About What You Need to Do?

January 29, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“If you’re feeling restless and have decreased job satisfaction, consider you don’t know what you really want to do.” Jeannette Seibly

There are many reasons you could be feeling restless in your career or job, and unsure what to do about it (pick one or two that resonate with you):

Poor job fit (you have the skills, but not the interest)
Plateau in career (hit a ceiling and need a new direction)
Doing the minimum work (lack of initiative)
Unable or unwilling to move forward (self-doubt)
Need more variety (boredom – your daily tasks or responsibilities haven’t evolved)
Time to expand (not clear how or what to do)
You’ve outgrown your current role or professional identity (your skills and capacity have expanded, but your job hasn’t)

Many times, when restlessness appears, there is a sense your current role isn’t matching your capacity or values. Or, another way of saying it, you may not be in the right job anymore. Yes, you have the skills, but the work doesn’t awaken your inner leader, or as others call it, your inner dharma or purpose.

Sometimes restlessness shows up when your professional identity has grown, but your current role hasn’t evolved to match it.

You may be bored because your boss fails to give you new projects, or because you fail to take initiative to ask for more or get involved in other opportunities.

You may have outgrown an old definition of yourself and your external world hasn’t caught up.

You blame your boss, company, or other external factors.

But … let’s look internally.

Here’s a quick self-check (a suggestion from AI):

“If I took a week away from work, would the restlessness disappear or still be there?”

If it disappears → it’s job fit or role design.
If it stays → it’s career direction or professional identity.
If it intensifies → you’re ready for a bigger role or new chapter.

What Can You Do?

Hire an Executive Coach. This is a smart step to ensure you’re clear about what you’ve done, what you want to do, and whether your current role is a true fit. Too many people stay in jobs that don’t fit them or try to mimic others’ careers and successes. This rarely works out well. Take the time. Get the coaching. Take the actions that actually move you forward.

An executive woman who had built her identity around being “a finance person” moved through several financial roles and clung tightly to that professional narrative. When a coach encouraged her to consider operations, which would have expanded her depth and breadth of career opportunities, she rejected the idea outright because it didn’t align with the vision she tightly held for herself. A couple of years later, she found herself once again searching for another finance position, illustrating how staying narrowly defined can limit growth rather than protect it.

This reflects how strongly people can resist paths that challenge their self‑concept, even when those paths might expand their long‑term opportunities and career fulfillment.

Complete a Qualified Job Fit Assessment. Again, job fit is key. Yes, I keep repeating this because so many people settle for a paycheck while doing work that either stresses them or bores them. Make sure you use a qualified job fit tool that focuses on interests, thinking style, and core behavioral traits. Most employers use assessments incorrectly, so it’s wise to work with an executive coach who uses the right tools.

Envision Your Career Future. Explore what exists beyond other people’s expectations, especially because many of us don’t actually know what we want. It’s easy to fall into imitation, apathy, or well‑meant advice that doesn’t match what we’re truly seeking. Unfortunately, it’s easier to stay in jobs that don’t fit simply because we like the people even while the work drains us.

Clarity becomes essential. If you’re not ready to branch into a more fulfilling role, you can still honor your interests by weaving them into your personal life. Whether that means taking a painting class, repairing bikes, or finding any outlet that reconnects you with what energizes you. This kind of personal expansion can then naturally morph into other areas of your life, including your job and career, opening doors you couldn’t see before.

Honor Yourself. It’s easy to give up and tell yourself that being stuck is for “the best.” Instead, take one small action step forward. Then, another. Keep steps small. For example, block one hour each week to explore roles, projects, or responsibilities that energize you now, not the ones you accepted years ago. Along the way, you will create clarity about what to pursue. Remember, talking about making changes over and over will NOT create a positive difference. Your actions create your motivation for what’s next.

Remember, restlessness is often the first sign that your career is ready for its next chapter.

Remember, restlessness is often the first sign that your career is ready for its next chapter. It doesn’t disappear by waiting. Contact me for a confidential conversation today to explore what’s next.

Resolve Lack of Communication Undermines Employees

January 26, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“Communication gaps limit company growth, innovation, and employee job satisfaction.” Jeannette Seibly

Employees everywhere are navigating rapid change: new terminology, new protocols for working with others, and rising concerns about psychological safety. Yet many leaders still fall short in communicating expectations, giving practical instructions, and offering the direction employees need to perform well. Leaders unintentionally widen and quietly erode the very employee satisfaction they’re trying to build.

Overcome Lack of Communication to Improved Results

Leaders, the key is awareness! And, the willingness to ask the employee what they need. Yes, it may take more time initially. But saves you lots of time, money, and customers in the long run.

Answer the Request for Help. When employees ask for help, answer in a manner that supports them to achieve intended results. You may not know the answer yourself. In those cases, refer the employee to team members that may know, or a vendor that knows how the system operates.

When an employee asked his manager for instructions on how to proceed with a project, the boss replied, “Just do it. Ask as you go along.” The employee was confused; he had never done the work before and didn’t know where to begin. He simply needed written instructions, or at least verbal guidance. But the boss didn’t know the process either and expected others to compensate for his lack of clarity. The employee eventually created instructions for himself and others, but those instructions disappeared when he and other team members quit. Lack of communication caused a spike in turnover because no one had the direction they needed to succeed.

Learn How to Listen for …

When leaders fail to listen for how they can help employees excel, they unintentionally widen communication gaps. Many leaders don’t listen for, or genuinely invest in, their employees’ career development. They stay focused on getting the job done with as little stress or disruption to themselves as possible. The real key is to care. Provide career‑development opportunities and encourage employees to apply what they learn, because strong communication and genuine support are what support performance.

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Never assume you, as the leader, have all the answers. Shutting down an employee who is having difficulty explaining what they want only creates more work in the long run. Take the time to ask open-ended questions, look for examples (e.g., pictures, graphs, or flowcharts) to ensure you are aligned, and remain open to others probing and asking questions too.

Never Assume Employees Should Know

When leaders assume employees should already know what resources and company benefits are available, they unintentionally widen communication gaps. Many employees don’t know what to ask for or even realize which benefits exist.

For example, when employee assistance programs (EAP) aren’t clearly communicated, people miss out on support at the very moment they may need it. Sharing information about free tax advice and other available resources builds trust, reduces stress, and strengthens a positive team culture.

All of this is achieved through full and clearer communication.

When employees can count on leaders to communicate clearly about expectations, opportunities, and the resources available to them, trust deepens and great results become the norm.

If you and team not delivering the results you want, consider your lack of communication is the barrier. Contact me for a confidential conversation to identify the gaps and strengthen your impact as a leader.

Use Self-Doubt to Build Self Confidence

January 22, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“Self-doubt can be an indicator you are moving into something new. This is not the time to doubt yourself.” Jeannette Seibly

Self-doubt shows up in everyone’s career. Often it sounds like a “little voice in your head” insisting you’re not ready, not capable, or not enough. But that voice isn’t a stop sign. It’s a signal you’re stepping into growth. When you learn to use self-doubt instead of fighting it, you turn hesitation into confidence and momentum.

Have you ever heard the “little voice in your head” say:

“NO!”
“You’ll fail.”
“You can’t.”
“You’re not smart enough.”
“You’re too old.”
“You don’t have what it takes to succeed.”

You’re not alone. Everyone experiences self-doubt. It shows up when fear or uncertainty creeps in. It’s normal for anyone moving forward in their career or life. But don’t let it derail your goals, career choices, legacy, or leadership. Use it to build confidence by stepping into those moments of discomfort, uncertainty, and mental chatter.

Confidence is an inside job. It’s trusting yourself and recognizing that self-doubt often signals progress.

7 Ways to Use Self-Doubt to Build Confidence

Self-Talk with Your Brags. Internal chatter can derail you, especially when trying something new. Complete the Brag! exercises in Get Your Brag On! Focus on what you’ve already achieved because you’ve achieved a lot and doing so turns self-doubt into confidence.
Replace Fear. Repeat “I am enough!” at least 50 times in the mirror. (I know this sounds like too much but it works.) Many people experience Imposter Syndrome, especially women, because they don’t feel like they are enough or have enough … regardless of credentials or awards. When self-doubt appears, talk it out with your executive coach. Identify the real source of the fear (e.g., seeking approval, working with a difficult team member, making the right hiring decisions).
Learn Something New. Everyone started their career not knowing something. Return to the basics and learn from the ground up. It builds confidence and influence because you understand how things work and where to adjust. When you set aside your ego, you learn faster and are more effective in achieving results.
Perfection Isn’t Perfect. Perfectionism creates stress, conflict, and missed milestones. Even when we do a good job, there will be mistakes made along the way. Relax, trust the process, and ask for help when needed. More importantly, learn from your mistakes.
Make the Best Decision You Can. Identify three must‑haves for your project, new vehicle, or next job. Then get three quotes or proposals. When selecting a book editor, I reviewed three viable candidates and chose the one that met my criteria. The cheapest or most expensive isn’t always the best.
Accept All Feedback Graciously. When receiving negative feedback, don’t let self-doubt take over. Get specifics. Be open to hearing what’s being said. It’s how you improve. Ask, “What is your most specific concern, and why is it important to you?” Listen, learn, and incorporate what’s appropriate. If you refuse to learn from feedback, self-doubt wins.
Trust and Believe in Yourself. Everyone fails at times. If you’re unwilling to work past your self-doubt and take focused action, you rarely achieve intended results. Work with your executive coach to explore options. For example, if you dislike selling, becoming a financial planner won’t be a successful career choice today.

Use your self-doubt as a guide, not a barrier. Lean into the discomfort, apply these seven practices, and take the next step forward … no matter how small. Confidence grows through action, reflection, and consistency. Start today.

For success in 2026, leaders must use their self-doubt to learn about themselves and how to be unstoppable. Contact me to learn how.

Do You Allow Self-Doubt to Sabotage Your Results?

January 19, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

“Self-doubt can be a saboteur and cause us to miss out on achieving intended results.” Jeannette Seibly

Self‑doubt is far more common among leaders than most people admit. It shows up when coaching team members, navigating project snafus, or learning new skills. The good news is that everyone experiences self‑doubt, including the most effective leaders.

The bad news is that self‑doubt often convinces leaders to stop doing the work needed to move forward, avoid needed conversations, or allow fear to take over the driver’s wheel. That’s precisely when self-doubt wins and you stop, which is the wrong move.

Self‑doubt may feel like a stop sign, but more often it’s a green light. It signals that you’re entering unfamiliar territory, a place where growth, innovation, and new results become possible. The real challenge is not the doubt itself, but the lack of clarity, skills, or perspective needed to move forward. That’s where mentors, coaches, and collaborators make all the difference.

Using Self-Doubt as Leverage

Take Time for Reflection: What Worked / What Didn’t Work

This simple exercise, grounded in objective data, reveals what needs attention: conversations, work assignments, your expectations, or structural changes to the project or how you leverage an opportunity. Without data, self‑doubt fills in the blanks with fear instead of facts.

Have the Tough Conversations

These conversations aren’t easy, but they don’t have to be painful. Preparation matters. Use your reflection data, stay open to feedback, and be willing to hear what you may have missed.

Plan to Listen for:

signals where you’re on the right track
where you went off-track
gaps in conversations or financial projections
team members doing the bare minimum
quiet changes that could derail the project

Ask Open‑Ended Questions

Listening is your competitive advantage. There may be unseen dynamics slowing progress: political, relational, or operational. A mentor, executive coach, or industry expert can help you interpret what you’re hearing. Always ask: “What would you do?”

Be Coachable

Admitting there’s a problem is uncomfortable. Hearing someone else point it out can be even harder. But coachability is a leadership multiplier. Stay more committed to results than to ego. If doubt persists, talk with one or two additional mentors (not five or ten) to uncover what’s really driving your hesitation.

A company owner frustrated with poor hiring results blamed candidates, recruiters, and the economy. The real issue? He wasn’t using valid, legal, and scientifically sound selection tools to understand a candidate’s thinking style, behavioral traits, and occupational interests. His biases were not objective data. But he used them to drive decisions. Retention dropped. Customers left.

To achieve true job fit (and keep customers), use objective, replicable data to transform hiring quality and your long‑term results.

Ask Yourself: “What Can I Learn?”

This is one of the most important questions. Self‑doubt always carries a message. Ask: “What is this teaching me?” Listen for the answer in silence, not in the noise of others’ opinions. Then turn insight into action by talking with your coach, taking a course (or teaching one), and having the conversation(s) you’ve been avoiding.

Overcoming self-doubt when faced with a challenge can be difficult. That’s why having an executive coach to guide you through the process is important. Contact me for a confidential conversation to discover where you are sabotaging your results.