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Coaching Removes the Ways We Self Sabotage

April 21, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Successful leaders and bosses know that having a coach isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity. While business professionals believe the do-it-yourself approach works just fine, many learn the hard way it doesn’t work. Doing it yourself is how we self-sabotage our progress, awareness, and ability to move upward.

Many up-and-coming leaders quit, change their goal to reflect what progress they have made, or fall victim to the allure of some shiny object. At that point, the goal of being a leader has been sidelined, dreams diminished, and the vision for success forgotten. This happens more often than leaders realize.

In today’s 2026 workplace—where hybrid teams, AI-driven decisions, rapid change, and increased burnout are the norm—these patterns of self-sabotage are even more costly. Uncovering the ways we self-sabotage is why we need the right coach. Having the right coach allows you to get real about your goals, keeps you focused, and reawakens your commitment to succeed. It’s a critical component to your success as a leader.

11 Self‑Sabotaging Beliefs That Hold Leaders Back

I can do it myself. Unfortunately, many DIYers think they can be their own coach. Listening to yourself is a fool’s game and rarely gets you to where you want to go. In 2026, self-coaching is even harder with constant workplace noise, shifting priorities, and increased pressure to perform.
A good coach needs a certification. Certificate programs can be helpful and provide technical skills. However, the right coach with experience, powerful listening skills, and the ability to customize ideas to your unique situation is far more powerful. That kind of skill can only be learned by a coach with extensive experience.
It’s too expensive. Not necessarily. How much are your career, time, family and financial future worth? Today’s leaders also recognize the cost of burnout, stalled promotions, and poor team relationships—areas where coaching pays for itself.
My company won’t pay for it, so it must not be important. There comes a time when you have to value yourself, your career, and be willing to invest in both to ensure your success. Many companies today expect leaders to take ownership of their own development.
Coaching is only for people who don’t have what it takes. Wrong! Coaching is for anyone and everyone wanting to take the next step up in their career. Every great leader has a coach! Having a confidential sounding board helps you become aware of your blind spots and transform them. Yes, everyone has blind spots … including you!
If you work harder, you will be successful. Working harder is not the answer. Working smarter, not harder, means doing things in a way that is effective and efficient, and gives you the ability to achieve intended results. The right coach will guide you to work smarter—especially important now with AI tools, hybrid teams, and constant change.
I’m doing fine and don’t need a coach to prepare me for the next step. This a very common blind spots for many leaders. Remember, moving up often requires knowing the “unwritten rules and practices.” Today, these rules are even more complex due to remote visibility challenges, shifting alliances, and evolving expectations.
I have friends and family who provide me with lots of advice. Yes, many people do. While they mean well, most friends and family members don’t have the courage to tell you what you really need to hear. And, they lack the experience at your new level. As a result, you miss out on the critical factors required to make better decisions, build stronger teams, and achieve intended results. This is exactly why you need the right coach.
I have too much work to do and cannot take on anything else. If this describes you, coaching should be at the top of your list. Most coaching comes just in time, when you need it and when it can provide the greatest impact. In 2026, leaders who delay getting support often experience burnout or stalled careers and missed opportunities.
I’ve already hit the glass ceiling and no coach can change that. Nonsense! Anyone can be a successful leader with the right coach navigating them forward. Additionally, success today is about more than just technical and financial skills. It requires being forward-thinking, team-oriented, and goal-driven … all areas where the right coach makes a huge difference. Today, relationship intelligence (RQ) and credibility are now essential, in addition to emotional intelligence (EI) and emotional integrity.
My assessment says I’m doing just fine. Most assessments are not focused on job-fit and becoming an effective leader. This is a major form of self‑sabotage. Many leaders rely on personality tests, team‑building tools, or “fun” assessments that have nothing to do with developing leadership. When you use the wrong type of assessment, you get misleading data, overlook real issues, and make decisions based on how people want to be seen rather than how they actually think, behave, and perform on the job. In 2026, with increased complexity, hybrid work, and rapid decision cycles, leaders cannot afford guesswork. Only qualified, validated job‑fit assessments provide the objective data needed to hire, promote, and coach effectively. Only work with coaches that use them.

When you uncover the ways you self‑sabotage, you will see that hiring the right coach is the most critical component for your success. In today’s fast-changing workplace, you cannot afford to rely on outdated beliefs or go it alone. What are you waiting for?

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author with over 33 years of experience guiding people to empower themselves, transforming workplaces into places that work, and shaping leaders who truly lead.

Your leadership and legacy depend on the decisions you make now. If you’re ready to elevate your influence, strengthen key relationships, and accelerate your career in today’s fast‑moving environment, it’s time to get the support that gets results. Let’s start the conversation today.

When You Need to Make Life Changes, How Do You Handle Old Relationships?

April 16, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

At 55+, stepping into a new chapter of being a leader and an advocate, and navigating life changes isn’t about learning how to lead — you’ve already done that throughout your career. It’s about the shift in your priorities and how those shifts impact long‑standing relationships. Over the years, people have relied on your friendship, your influence, and your support … and now you’re sharpening your focus on what matters most to you. And, that may no longer include them.

Long‑standing friendships can shift in unexpected ways as you enter this new chapter, and the power dynamics shift too. Some friends may no longer feel as connected, as equal, or as comfortable as they once did. That’s when you discover who truly supports your continued success, who stands with you through life’s ups and downs, and who you can keep close.

Over the past couple of years, as I’ve stepped into a new chapter of leadership, I’ve noticed subtle shifts in a few long‑standing friendships. People who once reached out regularly or valued my perspective became quieter and less engaged. One friend, who had often asked for my insight, pulled back and later commented to others, “She’s in a different place now.”

That moment reminded me of something important: when your life evolves — especially later in your life and career — not everyone knows how to adjust. Your priorities shift, your boundaries strengthen, and your influence changes. Some friends adapt with you. Some leave quietly. Others struggle with the transition, even if they never say it directly.

Remember, good and supportive friends don’t compete with you, punish you for changing, or demand you stay the same. They respect your new boundaries and responsibilities. They help you celebrate and get your brag on while giving you space to do what you need to do.

While everyone needs good relationships — and they are a major part of life — you may need to create new guidelines for supportive friends who stay:

Shift what you share and talk about.
Maintain connection differently (e.g., emails, texts).
Protect attention to different confidentiality and ethics issues that arise.

How to Handle Friends Who Unfriend You (or Quietly Pull Away)

Some friends will resent your changes. Some will quietly withdraw.

When friends unfriend you:

Accept the shift instead of chasing them
Don’t defend yourself or justify your changes or new successes
Don’t internalize their jealousy or insecurity
Stay factual and professional if their criticism spills into the workplace or with other friends
Don’t diminish or let go of the progress you’ve made

Remember, life changes … and so do you, especially at this time in your life. It’s time to develop friendships that support your life and career changes.

Friends You May Need to Unfriend

In this legacy phase of your career, you naturally become more selective about who has access to you. Not everyone can go with you into your next chapter — and that’s not failure. That’s wisdom.

Some friendships become liabilities when you hang on too long. They:

Expect more than you can give
Gossip or undermine your credibility
Make inappropriate comments at your expense (e.g., diminish your successes, or dismiss your changes as important)
Violate ethics or ask you to overlook their behavior

Clinging to old friendships causes a loss of self. Don’t hang on — move on. It’s a signal to develop new relationships in this new phase of your life.

How to Handle Your New Role and Your Friends

Don’t share confidential information about the past
Don’t overshare about your changes
Let your actions speak for themselves
Avoid being pulled backwards (it’s sneaky)
Don’t let old loyalties compromise you, your life, or what’s next

How to have the “tough” conversations with current friends:

Initiate conversations and stop waiting for your “friend” to do so
Don’t ghost them or ignore them if they reach out
Meet and share, in general terms, your new focus
Honor your inner power and don’t let anyone violate it
Don’t become their coach, instead remain their friend

Don’t be afraid to:

Talk with a therapist about changes occurring in your life
Work with an executive “legacy” coach to guide you forward
Invite new people for lunch, dinner, or get‑togethers — many have amazing stories that will inspire you
Value those long‑term friendships that make you feel good
Stop waiting for permission and make long overdue changes

Your legacy is shaped not only by what you achieve, but by the relationships you can and nurture and the ones you release. Protecting your emotional well‑being, your ethics, and your leadership presence is part of leaving a strong legacy.

Jeannette Seibly is a Leadership Results Coach, Talent Advisor, and Business Author with 33 years of experience activating greatness in leaders and companies. She delivers practical coaching and solutions that elevate performance today, build legacies that stand the test of time, and support people in empowering themselves to lead with clarity and impact.

Your legacy won’t wait — and neither should you. If you’re experiencing shifting friendships, new responsibilities, or changing priorities, now is the time to get the clarity and support you need. Contact me today and take the next step toward the legacy and future you’re building.

When You Step into Leadership, How Do You Handle Your Relationships with Friends?

April 14, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

When you become a leader, it exposes who is genuinely for you and who only supported you when you stayed at their level. Some friends will celebrate you. Others will criticize, distance themselves, or resent your success.

Years ago, my employer offered an education reimbursement program that I took advantage of and got my Master’s Degree. Then, I stepped into stepped into a new leadership role. When I hosted a celebration several friends who attended told me about another friend who wasn’t there. The absentee friend had told everyone, “She doesn’t deserve success since the company paid for the degree.”

That moment made something very clear to me: not everyone adjusts well when you are successful.

Supportive friends don’t compete with you, punish you for succeeding, or demand insider information. They respect boundaries and your new responsibilities. They help you celebrate and get your brag on!

As the new leader, keeping and building relationships is important. It’s a major part of your new job.

With friends, you’ll need to:

Shift what you share and talk about
Maintain connection outside work
Protect confidentiality and ethics
Avoid talking about work the way you used to
You’ll need to keep supportive friends who stay in your life with the new rules

How to Handle Friends Who Unfriend You (or Quietly Pull Away)

Some so-called friends will resent your promotion, question your worthiness, or feel threatened. There will always be naysayers. Others may feel you’ve changed. While you may deny you’ve changed and believe it’s just a new job title, keep in mind: You will need to grow and transform with your new leadership opportunity … so change is inevitable.

When friends unfriend you:

Accept the shift instead of chasing them
Don’t defend your promotion or justify your success
Don’t internalize their jealousy or insecurity
Stay factual and professional if their criticism spills into the workplace

Remember, you did the work. It may be time to get new friends

Friends You May Need to Unfriend

Friends who rely on external accolades and put you at the mercy of others’ opinions are the ones to release. These types of friendships become liabilities when you become a leader, especially when they:

Expect favoritism
Demand insider information
Pressure you to take their side
Gossip or undermine your credibility
Disagree with company politics and expect you to change it
Make inappropriate comments at your expense
Violate ethics or ask you to overlook their behavior

Remember, if you support a friend who has violated ethical issues, management will no longer trust you to do the right things. This can be career-killing now and in the future.

Also, when a friend becomes toxic or misaligned with your new responsibilities, you may need to step back or walk away entirely. Clinging to old friendships will cause you to lose authority.

How to Handle Your New Role and Your Friends

Lead with boundaries since you are now “company management.”

Don’t share confidential information
Don’t play favorites
Don’t let old loyalties compromise fairness or achieving the intended results

Have the tough conversations by initiating conversations and stop waiting for your “friend” to do so.

Don’t ghost them or ignore them
Meet outside work
Outline what topics are allowed, then, honor that boundary
Keep it personal, not professional
Don’t become their coach, instead remain their friend

Don’t be afraid to let go and move on when a “friend:”

Resents you
Gossips about you
Pressures you
Undermines you
Cannot handle your new authority
Abuses your friendship (“She’ll tell me… we’re good friends.”)

Moving on will require new friends. Join professional and trade groups. Meet 1:1 with others since it is a great way to develop and build new relationships. This process will lessen the emotional need to hang on to old friendships that have moved on without you.

Leadership changes relationships. Some friends rise with you. Some fall away. Some you must release to protect your credibility, ethics, and authority.

As you move forward, get the advice and support you need. Hire an executive coach. This is critical because leaders are responsible for building and maintaining relationships. The right coach provides clarity, confidence, and guidance as you navigate new expectations, shift relationships (including friendships), and accept the realities of leadership.

Note: When your friend receives a new job, be sure to:

Congratulate your friend when something good happens
Not hold a grudge
Remember, life is not a competition

If you’re ready to strengthen your leadership and develop and build new and strong relationships with confidence, contact me. Let’s talk about your next steps.

Are You Ignoring Your Dreams? Activate Your Inner Power

April 9, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Let’s start with the truth—your truth.

You have goals, dreams, and a purpose that won’t leave you alone. They show up in the shower, on your commute, while paying bills, and especially when life feels too small. And yet…

You have ideas but no money or time.
You hope “someday” life will change.
You have ambition, but lack clarity.
You’re waiting for a pathway to appear.
Your ego whispers, “If I fail, I’ll look foolish.”

Here’s the reality: every idea, goal, dream, and purpose has the potential to fulfill your human spirit.

You are powerful. You can create your life when you choose to do so.

But life happens. Crisis hits. Responsibilities pile up. And while life shifts, your dreams often don’t. They become a quiet longing you postpone until:

the kids are grown
you retire
you have more money
you feel ready
someone gives you permission

Or your dream grows louder—but you still don’t pursue it.

Why? Because you’re waiting for the perfect moment, partner, bank account, or sign. But perfection never shows up. Opportunities rarely arrive at the “right” time. And distractions make it easy to miss what’s right in front of you.

Life opens doors when you are in focused action—not when you’re waiting.

The #1 Reason You’re Stuck

If you’re listening to the chatter in your head … those buzzing mental mosquitos:

“I don’t have time or money.”
“I’m not ready.”
“What if I fail?”
“What will people think?”
“What if I choose wrong?”

These thoughts don’t disappear on their own. Transform them through taking small steps, the antidote to fear, procrastination, and self-sabotage.

When Is the Right Time?

Now.
Not later.
Not when you feel motivated.
Not when the stars align.

Motivation is created by action not the other way around.

Why You Keep Sabotaging Yourself

Because you’re following feelings, emotions, and intuition without clarity or structure.

Your gut is a tool—not a strategy.
Your emotions are signals—not instructions.
Your intuition is a nudge—not a plan.

When your inner voice says, “Get into action,” you keep waiting, suffering, and hoping. But hope without action becomes disappointment.

The truth is simple: You keep dreaming your dream instead of taking small steps necessary to achieve it.

I Know This Pattern Because I’ve Lived It

I’ve achieved many results and I’ve also resisted, delayed, doubted, and sabotaged myself. Yet every time I took action, even imperfect action, I survived. I learned. I grew.

Dream fulfilled:

I moved from Michigan to Colorado with very little money.
I started a 501(c)(3) with no funding and was profitable the first year.
I published 11 books—four became Amazon Best Sellers.
I became a professional speaker and won “People’s Choice Award for Best Speaker.”
I started my own company when being a woman consultant triggered outright resistance, and guided the creation of three millionaires and hundreds of six‑figure professionals.

You may be thinking, “Good for you, but I’m not capable of that.”

Yes, you are!

You are powerful.
But inner power unused becomes pain.
Power ignored becomes regret.
Power suppressed becomes self-doubt.

How to Activate Your Inner Power

Take One Small Step Today. Not tomorrow. Today. Write it down. Do it now.
Build a Team One at a Time. No one succeeds alone. Who do you know that can support you moving forward? Have a conversation with them.
Immerse Yourself. Be curious. Learn. Explore. Read. Listen to Videos. Journal.
Feel the Fear and Move Forward Anyway. Fear means you’re expanding. Acknowledge it.
Use the Power of Balance. Ask: Does this energize me or drain me? Listen. Adapt.
Handle Your Life. Clear the clutter—mental and physical. Start with a clean desk, kitchen, inbox.
Hire the Right Coach. A real coach brings clarity, accountability, and momentum. Hire one today.

Your Inner Power Is Calling Now

Take one step.
Build your team one person at a time.
Say “Yes!” to the dream that refuses to leave you alone.

Your life is waiting. Activate your inner power and step into it now.

Activate your inner power by taking the next step. If 55+ and ready, I’m here to guide you in moving forward. Contact me and get started today.

Want to Be a Great Leader? Create Your Successor Now

April 7, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Being a great leader requires preparing your success for a smooth transition, now! Not later.

However, many leaders fear stepping aside.

They wait too long.
They allow egos to get in the way.
They wait until it’s too late due to mental health issues, physical disability, or death.

In fact, many times they leave the job or company, or bide their time hoping no one will notice there is no successor in place.

The other excuse many current leaders face when selecting a successor, is that many potential future leaders are uncertain if they wish to become future leaders. Often, this is due to lack of preparation: training, development, coaching, and being given opportunities now to learn from mistakes and failures, and successes too.

To effectively prepare your successor requires objective insights, accountability for real behavior changes, and a confidential space to work through real issues.

What Can You Do to Prepare Your Potential Successors?

Create Your Own Future. Too often, if you are hanging on too long, you don’t have a “What’s Next?” planned for yourself. But the truth is, you won’t be in your current position forever. So instead of continuing to talk about your future, make excuses, create issues, and ignore the focused action required to move on, hire an executive coach and make a legacy plan. Now, implement the plan.

Assess Who’s Next. When you have a key employee designated to step up, they may not have the skills and talents to do so at this time. Or, they are a great #2 person but do not have the ability or desire to become the #1 leader to move a business or team forward. While they may say they are interested, now’s the time to discover the truth.

Create an individualized succession plan and use an objective job fit and leadership assessment. This is critical in determining job fit in the new role. Use the assessment to guide your conversations and listen for consistency in their responses. Review their results to see where the gaps are, then provide the tools, resources, and coaching required to win. Objective, external insight is essential for successful successor plans, since internal relationships and politics often prevent honest conversations about readiness.

Hire an Executive Coach Now. Hire an executive coach to guide the future successor(s). Using an executive coach from outside the company ensures any growth and development issues that might occur and limit the future leader remain confidential. An external coach also provides the accountability required to ensure new behaviors stick, something internal leaders often struggle to enforce without damaging relationships that are often overlooked by the boss, HR, and other insiders.

We all have our challenges. These should not restrict any future leader’s ability to move forward if the person has done the work, is ready, and there are no ethical or other integrity issues in the way. If there are issues, address them now, or move on to another person.

Remember, future leaders need a confidential space to work through fears, mistakes, and real challenges — something they cannot safely do with their mentor, boss, peers, or HR.

Select an Internal Mentor Now. The mentor’s role is to guide the future leader through industry, company, and professional changes, and provide executive sponsorship. Many mentors don’t make great coaches due to time limitations, and lack of effective coaching experience. The other consideration is confidentiality. Having a mentor as a coach can limit job transition or promotion opportunities if the future leader is going through a challenging work situation or difficult period in life. Again, if the person does the work, is ready, and has no ethical or other integrity issues, continue to move forward!

Invest in Training and Development. Have your potential successor attend leadership workshops to develop their interpersonal, emotional intelligence, managerial, and leadership effectiveness. Ensure, along with their coach and mentor, these new skills and awareness are being used appropriately and effectively. As mentioned at the beginning of this article, learning to be a leader is a process, not an event. It takes time, and requires holding them accountable and practicing the right skills.

Provide the Opportunities. Now is an excellent time to get them involved in company teams, critical client challenges, trade and professional associations, and other leadership opportunities. Hold them accountable for results, communication efforts, decisions, and the ability to work well with anyone, anywhere and at any time. While you know you can do it faster (and possibly better), you may have forgotten it’s because of your long-time experience. Allow your successor to develop their own experiences (and stories) while you can provide the benefits of your knowledge and guidance.

What Do You Do When the Person Changes Their Mind? This important question is often ignored. Have a conversation to learn why – it may take more than one. The purpose is to determine where you have made the process too difficult, or the person just isn’t the right one. But do not spend time attempting to talk the person into changing their mind — this rarely works out well for anyone. Move on to another person since you should always have more than one key employee who could become a successor.

Your legacy depends on more than training your successor. It requires preparing them with the insight, accountability, and support they need for success. If you’re ready to build the kind of future required for both yourself and your successor(s), contact me and we’ll talk through your next steps.

Want to Be a Better Leader? Learn How to Brag

April 6, 2026April 2, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Do you have confidence, but downplay your results?
Do you believe if you had anything to brag about, others would brag for you?
Do you believe humble bragging is OK, since it shouldn’t upset anyone?

In my many years of delivering the award-winning Get Your Brag On! presentation, I still find that many women and men downplay their value, success, and awesomeness. Why is this important? Effective leaders share their accomplishments with confidence. It encourages their team(s) to share their successes and wins, which inspires others.

Too many talented leaders are overlooked not because they lack results, but because they stay quiet about them. Jeannette Seibly

Recently, during a presentation, a highly qualified woman whispered to me, “I thought my work would speak for itself.” It hadn’t. Her less-experienced colleague, who confidently shared his wins, was promoted instead. This is a common scenario and underscores why bragging matters.

Savvy bragging is easy, but we make it hard. It should be easy, sharing factual accomplishments using metrics, results, and impact in a clear, business-relevant way. Unfortunately, our fear gets in the way.

Stop Downplaying Your Accomplishments!

Bragging is not arrogant, selfish, exaggeration, or taking credit away from the team. These myths keep people silent. Silence is not humility. Humble bragging is nonsense! (WSJ) It’s self-sabotage — and it costs you influence, opportunities, and money.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

Let go of your fears. If someone doesn’t like you, bragging won’t change their opinion.
If others are jealous of your success, they won’t suddenly want you on their team.
Stop trying to win approval.
In business, do you only want to be liked, or do you want to achieve results and make money while doing so?

Ironically, when you build true inner confidence, people are more likely to like you … and want to work with you. That is the mark of an effective leader.

Why Sharing Your Wins Matters

Savvy bragging is a career and business strategy that:

Gets you hired
Gets you promoted
Closes sales
Builds credibility and inner confidence
Differentiates you from competitors
Increases visibility and influence
Strengthens your professional reputation
Opens doors to awards, opportunities, and leadership roles

When you don’t communicate your value, decision-makers will assume you don’t have any. Jeannette Seibly

When you brag effectively, something shifts. You stand taller. People listen differently. Doors open that were previously closed. People want to work with you and be on your team.

Effective Savvy Bragging Is an Art

Imagine walking into a meeting knowing your results are known, respected, and valued — before you even speak. That’s the power of smart bragging. This requires speaking in the business language of numbers, metrics, and accomplishments. Many people fear math; but every businessperson knows their numbers and other metrics, and how and when to share them.

A simple structure helps:

State the accomplishment.
Add two metrics or measurable results.
State the impact or benefit.

Examples of effective bragging

“I reduced customer complaints by 37% in six months.”
“I led a 10-person cross-functional team that delivered a $2.5M project on time and under budget.”
“I improved employee retention by 18% by delivering 10 coaching and development programs.”

These statements are confident, factual, and compelling. They grab others’ attention and make a positive impact.

Be Authentic and Don’t Exaggerate

After presenting Get Your Brag On! to a group of consultants, a woman insisted, “Everyone lies and cannot tell the truth about their accomplishments!” In my experience, most people struggle to be authentic and tell the truth about what they’ve accomplished.

The lesson: be honest. If someone discovers you lied, it will hurt your credibility now and in the future.

While many people are taught to tone down their achievements, it’s usually at your own expense.

Instead, own your greatness, your achievements, and see what new opportunities open up.

How Do I Get Started?

Grab your copy of Get Your Brag On! Complete the five simple written exercises in the book. (For job seekers, use The Secret to Winning the Job: Start Bragging.) In a short period of time, you will be bragging in a savvy, effective, and confident voice. Your inner confidence, team, boss, company, and customers will applaud you.

Remember, too many leaders — current and future — downplay their accomplishments. Self-deprecation doesn’t attract others to you. Savvy and effective bragging does. Share your achievements in a business-savvy way, and be taken seriously as a leader … savvy bragging ensures you can. What are you waiting for?

Accountability Is a Leader’s Greatest Weakness

March 30, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Many companies today are experiencing rapid change. With growth come gaps in leaders’ ability to improve revenues and results. These gaps often stem from leaders relying on easy-to-work-with relationships, likability, or mediocre communication skills as substitutes for delivering measurable outcomes.

While many companies value a current or future leader’s ability to build relationships, communicate effectively, and make good decisions, the reality is that many do not hold these leaders accountable for producing intended results, and developing the skills required to do so. As a result, only 10% of teams are actually producing intended outcomes. This costs companies the retention of top talent and customers. It also puts leaders’ jobs at risk.

In one company, a team missed quarterly goals for six straight quarters—not because of lack of talent, but because no one required follow-through. Once accountability systems were put in place, the team hit their goals over the next two quarters.

What is Accountability? It means honoring commitments, owning the process and the outcome, and ensuring the work gets done as promised. Without accountability, even strong skills and good intentions fail to produce intended results.

How to Improve Accountability

Be Responsible for Clarity of Expectations. Lacking clarity, developing real goals, and taking action can be difficult when a leader or boss fails to check in with progress or diminishes or dismisses new ideas or resources as viable possibilities. When you are clear about what is expected by your boss, company, and/or client, you must be accountable for ensuring progress to achieve it. Clear expectations prevent assumptions, excuses, and reworks—three of the biggest drains on results.

Keep It Simple and On-Track. This is a corollary to expectations. When you make it complicated, constantly change your focus, or chase “shiny objects” that have no direct bearing on the tasks at hand, team members stop. They simply stop doing the work and stop communicating. Get them back in action by staying focused and speaking in a manner others understand and can support. Simple systems such as weekly priorities, short check-ins, and visible scoreboards help teams stay aligned and accountable.

Have Those Tough and Not-So-Easy Conversations. Many times, leaders get fearful when they lack specifics about an employee’s so-so or mediocre performance. Or they fear blowback if the person is well-liked on the team but not highly effective. Not holding team members accountable—and not providing laser-like coaching—takes an otherwise good employee and makes them less effective. Take time. Talk with your executive coach. Ensure what you believe is the problem actually is the problem, and not based on gossip or others’ misperceived beliefs. Avoiding these conversations sends an unintended message: mediocre performance is acceptable.

Become Resilient. Yes, there will be mistakes and failures. Instead of wallowing in them or relying on excuses, get yourself and your team clear by using asking ‘What Worked?’ and ‘What Didn’t Work?’ Then brainstorm solutions for what was missed, overlooked, or ignored. Hold people accountable by having them get back to you by a specific time. If they fail to do so, reach out with a reminder. Resilience, especially when you believe you “shouldn’t have to,” keeps accountability from sliding into blame. And blame is where many leaders unintentionally shut down performance.

Stay Connected. Consistent connection eliminates surprises and is one of the biggest reasons leaders struggle with accountability. Feedback, 1:1 meetings, and scoreboards help keep everyone on track and in action. It starts with you, as the leader, staying in communication with your boss. Also, be accountable to your team. Hold weekly meetings and keep them short and on-point. When you stay connected with your team and team members, they will amaze you.

Hold Yourself Accountable. This can be more difficult than holding your team accountable. Listen and document when you make promises or say you will do something. Follow up and follow through with needed resources. Encourage initiatives. Talk with your executive coach consistently to ensure you’re aware of any potential pitfalls. Your team mirrors your behavior—your accountability sets the standard for theirs.

Want to become a stronger leader? Do you want a team that delivers instead of explains? Accountability is the place to start. If you’re ready to strengthen your leadership, improve your listening, and be held accountable, contact me. Let’s talk through your next steps.

Strategies that Decrease Stress for Type A Results Producers

March 26, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Type A leaders rarely name their emotions, allow themselves to be vulnerable, and believe showing authenticity is risky. When your mindset overrides your stress and frustration, burnout follows. Yes, you get things done, often at a high level, but the cost can land on your team, peers, customers, and the company … while costing you your health and well-being.

Achieve Better Results Without Creating Unnecessary Stress

One small action at a time. Stop pushing, controlling, or manipulating outcomes. Smaller steps may feel slower, but they create healthier, more grounded results for you, your team, and the organization. “Slow is smooth and smooth is fast.” (Navy Seals)

Have tough conversations. Avoidance is a limited mindset. Write out the issue, review it with your executive coach, refine it, practice, and then have the conversation. Leadership requires two-way dialogue for positive results.

Use silence strategically. Not every moment needs noise, talking, or busy-ness. Silence creates space for clarity and better decision-making while reducing your frustrations.

Lead with calm presence. Frenetic energy, especially from a leader, destabilizes people and outcomes. Schedule moments throughout the day to breathe. In the evening, carve out time for yourself and do something you love (watch a movie, read, connect with others).

Rest and nourish your body. A healthy leader creates a healthy culture at work and at home. When you achieve your results — and you will — you’ll be able to enjoy them.

Practice mindfulness. When faced with a difficult challenge, breathe: one technique is to inhale for 10 counts, exhale for 10 counts, and repeat three times. This is a great reset before reacting.

Pause before speaking. This signals respect, helps others feel heard, and keeps you from cutting people off or missing their point of view. Build from others’ ideas and perspectives for stronger results. Listening intentionally reduces your stress, and others too, since they feel heard and valued.

Truly listen. Talking over people, controlling the conversation, or being dismissive erodes trust. Listen fully, build solutions, implement, and check progress frequently to ensure the best outcome.

Self-promotion with balance. Being clear about your accomplishments builds your voice and presence in any room, even when you remain silent. Humble-bragging and over-bragging diminishes credibility.

Acknowledge your people. Praise individuals and the team as you go. “Please” and “thank you” still matter and strengthens relationships.

IMPORTANT NOTE for Type A Leaders: Contact me to get started with the PXT Select® assessment. This state‑of‑the‑art tool delivers clear insight into how you’re perceived in the workplace, and its leadership report pinpoints your strengths, flags potential challenges, and provides targeted coaching strategies you can put into action immediately to elevate your effectiveness.

Feeling the stress and plowing through it anyway, only makes it worse. Slow down, breathe, listen, and include others working on projects or solutions. Reach out to delve deeper into solutions that will work for you and your team.

The Ego Blind Spots That Derail Your Leadership

March 23, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Some leaders don’t realize their ego enters the room ten minutes before they do. Their ego may help them win deals, but it quietly destroys trust, credibility, and every relationship required to sustain success.

Every leader (men and women) has an ego. The real question is whether yours is working for you or quietly working against you. Are you dialing up your humility and dialing down your ego? Or do you rely on others to continue bolstering your need to be right, talk over others, and be the center of attention?

The issue is that these individuals often lack genuine self‑confidence, seek constant validation, and give away their power. Early in life, people encouraged their stories; it became their success strategy. Now, as leaders, it has turned into a liability. The deeper truth: they never learned how to build real emotional intelligence, so ego became the substitute.

Many even recognize they talk too much and listen too little, yet instead of getting the help they need, they rely on inauthentic acknowledgments of the problem — as if naming it excuses them from developing real emotional intelligence and emotional integrity.

Do you…

Talk too much?
Listen too little?
Make everything about you?
Fail to understand the other person’s point of view?
Diminish or dismiss others’ contributions?
Cut people off because you think they’re talking too slowly or you already “know” what they’re going to say?
Ignore promises made because you don’t remember making them?

These behaviors don’t make you a leader others want to follow … at least not for long. They create turnover, lost sales, stalled careers, and eroded trust. Often, they make you the leader people tolerate until you’re removed from your role.

How to Transform from Egotistical to Influencer

Talking Too Much and Missing the Point. Talking too much, no matter how entertaining your stories are or how high your energy is, derails team meetings, workshops, and collaborative discussions where interaction is expected. It signals that you either don’t fully understand what’s happening or simply don’t care.

Some may even label you a “Chatty Cathy” (men and women), not because you add value, but because you’re a convenient source of gossip.

In sales, a big ego might help you close contracts, but it will never build customer loyalty, employee psychological safety, or sustainable results. People notice the disconnect long before you do. A large ego can make you feel successful right up until the moment it costs you your team, your customers, or your reputation.

Transformational Point: Pause before speaking and ask yourself, “Is this moving the conversation forward or just feeding my ego?”

Listening Too Little and Cutting People Off. Talking over others means you’re not listening, regardless of the excuse you give yourself. The truth is, you don’t actually know what they were going to say since you’re not a mind‑reader. Over time, this creates a psychological safety issue because when it’s time to participate in brainstorming or team meetings, people don’t trust you to honor their voice.

Transformational Point: Practice listening to understand, not to respond. Your influence grows when others feel heard.

Failing to Understand Others. If it’s always been about you and your ego, it’s time to shift. As a leader, it must be about the company, the product or service, the customers, vendors, and employees. You may say the right words, but if your actions don’t match, no one believes you. In sales, this is where customer satisfaction quietly disappears due to promises being made and not followed or remembered.

Transformational Point: Shift from “How do I look?” to “What does this person need from me right now to be successful?” Then, deliver.

Allowing High Sociability to Become a Liability. People with high sociability and “energizer bunny” enthusiasm can be fun … until they’re not. You may have great stories about the people you’ve helped, but there are just as many who feel you didn’t support their goals or vision. That disconnect matters now and, in the future, because people just don’t forget.

Transformational Point: Channel your energy into being present, not being the center of attention. Real connection beats charisma every time.

Lacking Self‑Awareness. Many ego‑driven leaders avoid feedback, skip reflection, and resist taking or using qualified assessments because they fear what they’ll learn. Ironically, this avoidance is what keeps them stuck.

Transformational Point: Build a weekly self‑awareness practice of reflection, feedback, and assessments. Awareness is the antidote to ego.

Working with an executive coach can help you temper the constant need to talk, explain, or entertain. Learning to listen, really listen, takes daily practice. And yes, you’ll still be highly sociable and full of energy. The difference is that now you will be effective, not exhausting, when working with others.

Transformational Point: Commit to one daily behavior change. Small steps that build consistent shifts create lasting influence … that’s mastery and building your influence in an effective way.

You don’t have to lose your confidence or energy to become a stronger leader — you simply need to balance how you are using your ego. If you’re ready to strengthen your influence, improve your listening, and build a leadership presence people trust, contact me. Let’s talk through your next steps.

When Employees Refuse to Be Satisfied or Communicate

March 16, 2026 by Jeannette Seibly

Some employees, paid or volunteer, refuse to be satisfied. They’re never happy, something is always wrong, and they blame others for their frustrations. The key resolve? Acknowledge you cannot fix what they refuse to own or communicate about. And, if necessary, employment law will determine how and when to let them go.

The Real Issue Often Isn’t Obvious

Many employees, contractors, or volunteers avoid conversations because they lack the skills, confidence, or willingness to talk things out. Leaders avoid tough conversations for the same reasons. When both sides avoid the conversations that need to happen, resentment grows, stories get created, reasons multiply, and the situation spirals into a no‑win cycle for everyone involved.

Leadership isn’t about fixing people. It’s about creating the conditions for clarity, accountability, and growth. But beware, your ego may be doing the talking and thinking. Self‑reflection is required.

When employees are not satisfied, it can show up as:

Hiding behind emails and texts instead of talking
Reacting without facts
Responding emotionally to questions
Being triggered by small things
Being a victim
Needing to be right
Thinking everyone is against them

When leaders encounter these behaviors, it’s crucial to act, determine the real issue, and whether or not you can resolve it.

Good Intentions Aren’t Enough

Some employees (W2 or 1099) or volunteers genuinely want to do well, but they’re never satisfied. They’re unhappy, allow their skepticism free rein, blame others, and drain the team. Here’s what must be in place before you decide whether to keep them or let them go.

1. Job Fit. According to multiple studies, over 80 percent of people today are in jobs that don’t fit them. When job fit is off, communication breaks down, performance drops, and dissatisfaction skyrockets. Use a qualified job‑fit assessment to determine whether the person is correctly placed in the right role, and identify any coaching you may have overlooked and any adjustments to their job responsibilities.

In the future, when you hire, promote, or transfer someone, use a strategic job‑fit hiring process. When followed, it will reduce dissatisfaction and poor job fit. (Grab your copy of Hire Amazing Employees. Note: An employment attorney bought copies of Hire Amazing Employees for clients struggling with hiring. All but one improved. The one who didn’t? Never read the book.)

For a volunteer, the same principles apply: Ensure they’re in a role that matches their interests, strengths, and available time. Volunteers often say yes out of goodwill, not fit. When the role doesn’t align with who they are, they become frustrated, disengaged, or overly critical, just like an employee in the wrong job.

Have a simple conversation and deep dive into the real reason they volunteered. This conversation will usually clarify whether they’re in the right place, need to be reassigned to a role that better suits them, or it’s time for them to move on.

2. Training. Once you have the right person in place, onboarding and training must begin immediately, preferably before their first day. The right‑fit person appreciates training.

The wrong‑fit person:

Takes coaching personally
Fears feedback
Loathes training
Interprets direction as criticism

This should be a sign, not a surprise, when job fit is missing.

3. Communication Skills. Many people today lack strong communication skills. They rely on electronics, emojis, and avoidance. During their primary education years, they never developed the depth and breadth needed to express ideas, resolve upsets, or talk things out. This leads to misunderstandings, assumptions, and unnecessary drama. Provide ongoing training and lead by example.

4. Tough Conversations. Avoiding tough conversations only deepens resentment. Leaders must be willing to talk things out, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Role-play with your executive coach. Prepare. Get grounded. One well‑prepared conversation can shift everything or reveal that nothing will change.

It’s up to you as the leader to initiate and take responsibility for listening and communicating in a manner they can hear. Beware of using manipulation or being manipulated. This is an opportunity for dissatisfaction to decrease or for the person to find other opportunities.

5. Let Them Go. If you’ve had the conversations and it’s still not working, and the issue is not harassment or discrimination, it may be time to let them go.

If harassment or discrimination is involved, you must address it immediately with your attorney or HR and document everything.

Letting someone go isn’t failure. It’s leadership.

Leadership Requires Clarity and Courage

Leadership is about creating the conditions for clarity, accountability, and growth. When someone refuses to communicate, take responsibility, or participate in solutions, it negatively impacts the entire team. Strong leaders recognize when they’ve done their part and when it’s time to make a decisive, responsible choice for the health of their organization.

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author with over 33 years of experience guiding people to empower themselves, transforming workplaces into places that work, and shaping leaders who truly lead.

Review your team this week to identify where job fit, communication gaps, or unresolved issues are creating friction. Then take one decisive step: have the tough conversation, adjust a role, provide training, or reassign or release someone who is not a match. Leadership requires action. Contact me to address difficult concerns and move your team forward.