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Key Factors to Hire for Job Fit and Avoid Costly Loss of People

March 17, 2025 by Jeannette Seibly

“Job fit is crucial when hiring and promoting people to achieve intended business results.” Jeannette Seibly

Did you know: “Employee engagement in the U.S. fell to its lowest level in a decade in 2024, with only 31% of employees engaged?” (Gallup)

I would assert that many employers are unclear about what job fit is and what it is not. Employees who excel in jobs that fit their thinking style, core behaviors, and occupational interests stay longer and are more engaged.

If you are frustrated and annoyed with hiring great people into the wrong job, this article is for you.

Today, many qualified people are looking for work because they are retiring, being fired, being laid off, or looking for something better. Although there are a lot of great job candidates available – buyer beware – it doesn’t mean they will fit well into the job responsibilities of your company. Outdated hiring practices that rely on intuitive hiring, biases, and inappropriate pre-employment assessments will cause you to lose key customers and top talent while hurting profitability.

“Too often, we hire based on subjective reasons but fire for poor job fit.” Jeannette Seibly

What Are a Few Signs of Poor Job Fit?

• Work assignments are late, with a lot of excuses
• Promises are made without achieving the intended results
• Frequent mistakes occur, and the employee misreads what needs to be done
• Conflicts with team members, customers, and bosses
• Failure to listen, incorporate others’ ideas, and develop win-win-win outcomes
• Lack of business growth (sales) or overrun of expenses
• Constant change in direction – they are easily distracted by “shiny objects” or “crystal ball” syndromes

Why Does Poor Job Fit Happen?

• No real objective data collected (e.g., resumes are more than 80 percent inaccurate).
• Rely on intuitive hiring practices that reflect biases (e.g., the job interviews account for 90 percent of the hiring decision).
• Unwilling to improve the selection process, citing costs for improvement and ignoring costs for hiring mistakes.
• Failure to conduct thorough due diligence (e.g., relying on false data, such as name of employer, education).
• Use inappropriate assessments to determine job fit (e.g., overlook validity, reliability, predictive validity, and distortion factors)
• Believe any known limitations can be overcome with training and development. (Forgetting that no one works that hard to be someone they are not. This is a trap that almost every hiring boss/leader falls into!)

What Is Job Fit?

Job fit refers to the alignment between an individual’s skills, experience, values, and personality with the requirements, culture, and expectations of a specific job and organization. It encompasses several key aspects:

1. Skills and Experience Fit: How well an individual’s abilities and past work experience match the tasks and responsibilities of the role. While these required skills and experience may sound good on paper, the job candidate may not be able to use the skills effectively. It’s why valid job-fit assessments are required. When using highly validated and reliable assessments, you gain insight into the real person and their core behavior, occupational interests, and thinking styles.

2. Cultural Fit: The degree to which an individual’s values, behaviors, and working style align with the company’s culture and work environment. A startup or new business venture is very different from working in a well-established company. In a company that requires thinking outside the box, some job candidates may believe they can … but are unable to design and develop sustainable systems or results.

3. Motivation and Interest: The extent to which an individual’s career goals and personal interests are aligned with the job’s duties and opportunities for growth. With changes in people’s work ethic, their career or life aspirations may misalign with the company’s needs and goals. It’s critical to have very clear expectations: PTO, work-life balance, accountability for following up and following through, etc.

4. Team Fit: How well an individual works with existing team members and contributes to team dynamics and cohesion. Are they someone who can work well with others, be coachable, and keep their ego out of the way?

When job fit is strong, employees are satisfied, business excels, and customers keep coming back.

Strategies to Improve Job Fit

• Create a sustainable strategic job fit selection process.
• Get real about what you need and the type of person who can fulfill the desired results.
• Work with a talent advisor/hiring consultant to train managers on interviewing, due diligence, and using the proper job fit assessment. (Each should account for 1/3 of the selection decision.)
• Remember, many savvy job candidates will tell you what you want to hear, and hiring bosses have a low probability of discerning the truth. It’s why objective data is required.

To recap: Using a qualified job fit assessment that meets the validity and reliability requirements outlined by the Department of Labor, conducting proper due diligence, and structuring interview processes to affirm your intuition/gut will provide clarity and are crucial to improving employee engagement, customer retention, and improving the bottom line.

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Working with small and family businesses, her expertise guides leaders and bosses to refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Grab her book, “Hire Amazing Employees” — it provides overlooked issues when designing and using a strategic job fit selection system.

Communication Styles that Hurt Leadership Effectiveness

February 3, 2025 by Jeannette Seibly

“Good communication skills are required by everyone for a company, team, and project to achieve intended results.” Jeannette Seibly

Between 40% and 60% of conversational utterances are ego-related, focusing on our own feelings, opinions, and personal experiences. This self-centered conversational tendency is even more pronounced on social media, where some 80% of communication focuses on the self. (Wall Street Journal, January 2025)

The Problem: Poor communication is a widespread issue in workplaces today, worsening among leaders and bosses causes preventable conflicts.

Why This Matters: Leaders must listen, engage, and encourage employees. Otherwise, it will impede projects, budgets, timelines, quality, delivery, and other results.

Communication Styles That Cause Conflicts

• Self-Interest Approach: Asking questions just to turn the conversation to oneself (aka BoomerAsking). (Wall Street Journal, January 2025).

• Top-Down Approach: Dictating tasks without explaining “why” undervalues team members, stifles brainstorming, and leads to passive resistance.

• Passive Approach: Avoiding conflict and not asserting opinions leads to unresolved issues and perceived weak leadership.

• Aggressive Approach: Harsh, confrontational communication erodes trust and makes team members fear sharing ideas.

• Manipulative Approach: Deceit and fact-spinning create a toxic culture of mistrust.

• Inconsistent Approach: Frequently changing messages (aka relying on your feelings and indecisiveness) cause confusion and make leadership seem unreliable.

• Lack of Openness Approach: Unwillingness to listen to feedback and new ideas alienates team members and stifles innovation.

• Overly Technical Approach: Using complex language alienates non-experts and hinders understanding.

No one wants to believe that they are using these approaches. But take a moment and really look to see when, where, and why you engage in these bad habits.

How to Transform These Bad Habits

1. Hire an Executive Coach. Even if you need to pay for it yourself, it’s worth every dollar. Poor communication is why many bosses and leaders find themselves unemployed or sidelined. It’s avoidable with an executive coach.

2. Use a Qualified Job Fit Assessment. Understand “why” your thinking style, core behavioral traits, and occupational interests can get in the way of communicating effectively with others. This objective tool is priceless and helps you keep your job! And, when used as designed, can help you get promoted!

3. Develop Strong Meeting Leadership: Leading meetings effectively is crucial — on-site, remote, and hybrid. Work with your coach, take workshops, and watch videos to learn the nuances between mediocre and great meetings. Your communication style will determine the success of your teams’ results.

4. Become an Active Listener and Listen to and Give Constructive Feedback: Attend and participate in workshops, leadership coaching sessions, and other feedback programs. Don’t be afraid to provide quality feedback that makes a positive difference. It all requires good communication skills and an awareness of how you are perceived.

5. Develop Emotional Intelligence. Being mindful is key. Learn when and how to use humor, approach sensitive topics with empathy, and be willing to learn along with your team.

6. Pay Attention to Generational Differences. Older generations may use meetings to tout “this is the way it’s always been done,” making it difficult for newer employees to provide new ideas and solutions. Younger employees may rely too much on social media as “the way to get things done” and fail to understand “fake news” and “sensational podcasts designed to attract ‘Likes.’” It’s up to you to manage these interactions with communication finesse!

7. Train on Etiquette and Expectations: It starts with you! Become familiar with virtual conferencing systems and how to effectively communicate using them! Then, train your team members and others on how to get the most out of these meetings.

8. Be Coachable and Have a Willingness to Admit Mistakes: When you feel insecure about a situation or working relationship, you will tend to dominate the conversation instead of asking for help. Share your experience with brevity and admit when you don’t know something. (It’s a foundational skill required of great leaders.) Hold yourself accountable for implementing the feedback asap.

Good communication skills used during 1:1’s, team meetings, and other conversational moments can be beneficial to everyone … especially you! Remember, a good communication style will avoid conflict and will enhance your team’s cohesion and productivity while achieving great results!

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Asking for Help Is Required to Achieve Intended Results

January 16, 2025 by Jeannette Seibly

“Asking for help is brilliant!” Simon Sinek

“Recognizing the value of asking for help in hiring, coaching, and managing challenges shows strength and will contribute to your company’s growth.” -Jeannette Seibly

Too often, people believe asking for help makes them look weak. It creates barriers to achieving intended results and hurts our boss/leadership skills.

When stuck in a working relationship, situation, or strategic issue, we freeze, flee, or change the goal (which diminishes the intended result)—all because we failed to ask for help!

Yet, asking for help is one of the cornerstones of achieving your intended results. With only 10 percent of teams achieving their required results, it’s crucial that you, as the boss/leader, confidently ask for help, use the art of listening, and make the necessary changes!

Why do we hesitate to ask for help?

Lack of …

• Willingness. Ego can be a significant barrier. Leaders should remember that seeking advice is a sign of strength, not weakness.

• Trust. Trust yourself and selectively seek insights from a few reliable people rather than broadcasting your query widely (e.g., social media or more than 2 or 3 people).

• Self-Awareness. Lack of self-awareness can lead to an inability to recognize when help is needed.

Seven Tips to Get the Help Needed to Achieve Results

1. Set Aside Your Ego. Take a moment to breathe and seek advice from the right sources. This is critical. Talk directly with the person(s) who can provide the help! For example, a training expert was asked, “I was told I needed to do XYZ when making a presentation. But at a recent workshop, everyone walked out. What happened, and what do I need to do differently?”

2. Don’t Wait Too Long. Anticipate the need for help early to prevent compounding issues. It’s harder to ask for help once you’ve sabotaged yourself (usually unintentionally), experienced a project failure, or damaged a relationship with a co-worker or customer. Ask for help earlier not later.

3. Listen. The art of listening goes beyond the words and includes asking open-ended questions to uncover deeper insights.

4. Don’t Wait for Clarity. (It seems counter-intuitive.) Seek objective feedback, especially when things seem murky and unclear. And remember, you asked for help. This is not the time to become defensive … you asked for help … this is the time to listen. Share in concise statements: The goal of the project or issue; What has been done to date; and What is slated for the future Then, ask for help: “What do you see is missing?”

5. Be Coachable. Stay open to learning and avoid letting ego and pride interfere with accepting help. Remember, your defensiveness will sabotage your success.

An author told me in a group meeting that bragging was nonsense to her, but then complained of poor book sales. She explained, “I don’t see the value and I’m too busy to learn how to brag.” Yet, marketing and self-promotion determine 90 percent of someone’s success as an author. Even after others chimed in, she refused their help! When you refuse to listen, people will stop helping you and your results will suffer!

6. Make Asking for Help a Habit. Seeking assistance regularly can foster your professional growth and build your leadership credibility. Also, it helps you produce results faster and easier each time while building your influence.

7. Make Your Requests for Help Clear and Concise. Clearly articulate what you need and be open to accepting a “yes” or “no” response. If a person is not available or is unwilling, ask someone else.

Important Question! How do you plan to incorporate these tips into your leadership approach?

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Secrets to Achieving a Successful 2025

January 13, 2025 by Jeannette Seibly

“What are you doing differently to get the results this year?” Jeannette Seibly

A new year has begun! While some of you as leaders and bosses may be excited, others dread it and hope it’s not another year like last year!

What are the secrets to moving forward and achieving a fabulous year?

No, it’s not creating more resolutions!

It’s expanding your leadership!

Keep reading …

Secrets to Expanding Your Leadership

Be Curious. Take time for reflection on what you really, really, really want to achieve this year for yourself! Expand and think bigger than your normal way—playing small and safe won’t get you a promotion, pay increase, or new job opportunities. Expanding your curiosity requires hiring the right executive coach and doing the work!

Seek Feedback. While you may hate to hear others’ opinions, thoughts, and feelings (most people do), discovering your leadership blind spots is priceless. Suggested questions: “When you think of me, what are my strengths?” “What are one or two areas that you would recommend I improve on?” “Anything else you’d like to say?” Remember, you’ve asked them for their feedback. Do NOT debate. Instead, ask open-ended questions to delve deeper if you desire to do so. If you really want to expand your leadership savvy, do this.

Know Thy True Self. Yes, many people believe they already do. Interestingly, they know themselves by how they want to be seen … not by who they really are (and how others see them). In this era of desired authenticity, knowing your inherent strengths and how to work with these traits to minimize weaknesses is important. This expands your influence and encourages others to listen to your ideas.

Seek Resolutions. Conflict and disagreements can create havoc with your team and your future, especially if you’re someone who likes to sugar-coat the issue or deny the issue exists. Your job as a leader is to help others grow and develop. It starts by having people discover “why” there are differences and how to use critical thinking skills. Learn to expand your results and resolve the situation instead of having the focus on someone’s personality!

Develop Good Working Relationships. You don’t have to love your boss or employees. However, you do need to focus on their positive qualities and learn how to work with them for your success. I’ve worked with many leaders to develop and expand this skill — it made the #1 difference in their success.

Dial Up Your Humbleness. Yes, egos have a way of getting in the way of your success! To avoid burnout, ask for help! Use your coach, boss, and team to improve and expand (or simplify) your ideas for workability.

Self-Care. When you feel overwhelmed by people and situations, breathe! Sounds simple but it’s not automatic it naturally calms you down. Take a walk. Talk it out privately with a confidant. Again, be open to feedback that you may not want to hear. Being a great leader requires expanding knowledge, confidence, and abilities.

Hire a Coach. ALL successful leaders have coaches! Take the leap and hire the right one now!

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

How to Acknowledge Fears Due to Uncertainties

November 18, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“It’s important to keep moving forward responsibly during the uncertainties being experienced right now.” Jeannette Seibly

While uncertainties are a natural part of life and can be challenging, they also offer opportunities for growth and adaptation.

There are many uncertainties today due to natural disasters, economic and political confusion, and global impacts. These often elicit fears – fear of change and fear of the unknown. As a boss/leader, it’s essential you acknowledge your own fears and manage them first. Your reactions can encourage innovation, business growth, and new systems … or keep you and others stuck in fear.

Fear is contagious! Don’t disregard your own! (Yes, I’m repeating it since many bosses/leaders fail to acknowledge their own fears!)

• Take the time to talk with your executive coach and stay in action moving forward.
• Use a job fit assessment leadership report to uncover your leadership blind spots … during times of uncertainties, people are more sensitive to your words and actions.
• Keep up-to-date on any industry, business, and company changes, no matter how small.
• Focus on moving your team forward and keeping them engaged. Remember, team members will mimic how you handle these challenging moments of uncertainty.
• Do your homework, admit to not having all the answers, and talk straight.

How to Acknowledge Fears Responsibly

Acknowledge your fears privately. Acknowledge your fears and treat yourself with compassion. Take time for self-reflection. Answer, “What is keeping me awake at night?” Start a private journal (for your eyes only) to address your actual concerns and possible solutions. Also, write down new insights and opportunities that pop up – no matter how off-the-wall they may seem.

Share your concerns appropriately and responsibly. Recognize situations or thoughts that trigger your reactions. These may be unrecognized biases and fears. Acknowledge that they are natural and normal human responses that everyone experiences. But don’t hang onto them. During team meetings, set aside fears and create a “What if …” time for new ideas to flow. Stay away from “How to do it” – that comes later after the brainstorming phase.

Focus on what you can impact. With your team, develop a plan that will provide a sense of direction using new strategies. Set manageable goals by breaking down milestones into small, achievable steps. These “wins” are essential.

Don’t step over acknowledging others’ contributions. Appreciation can minimize others’ fears of change and uncertainty which cause anxiety and impact performance. Share your own fears and growth appropriately and with brevity.

Practice mindfulness. Be aware of words and attitudes (yours and others) that get in the way of team members and others feeling that they are part of the process. Stay present during conversations and other interactions, especially about any issues or team conflicts. Get them resolved immediately. Remember, breathing practices can help calm the mind, alleviate feelings of fear and indecisiveness, and improve the quality of win-win-win outcomes.

Stick to the facts and use numbers/metrics to de-escalate any upsets. Speak responsibly and factually. Don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t have an answer at the moment.” This builds trust, credibility, and influence. If you engage in hyperbole, your board, team, or client will stop listening and trusting you. Remember, what you say and do will be repeated and possibly recorded.

Stay connected. Again, don’t attempt to go it alone. When confronted by a problem, talk it out with your executive coach, one or two trusted confidants, and with your management team. (Don’t post on social media!) Also, attend trade, industry, and professional meetings — these can provide insights from shared experiences and give a sense of community, making it easier to cope with uncertainties while pursuing new opportunities.

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor/Leadership Results Coach with over 32 years of practical experience guiding leaders and bosses to improve their hiring, coaching, and managing practices and produce amazing results! And yes, achieving business success always starts with having the right people in the right jobs! She has been an Authorized PXT Select® Partner for over 33 years. Contact Jeannette to learn more about these state-of-the-art job-fit assessment tools or how to coach and manage your people to achieve incredible results.

A note from Jeannette: Fear due to change and uncertainty is contagious! As a boss/leader, it’s essential to take care of yourself and your team dynamics during times of uncertainty. This week’s article addresses considerations to guide you and your team to move forward and address the natural fears that are arising at this time. Contact me to start a confidential conversation and address how to resolve what seems unresolvable.

Now is the time to get into focused action! Are there days you dread doing what is needed to manage your people, projects, and team’s financial performance? You’re not alone! Everyone has those days! But continuing to hide behind excuses only hurts you and your future promotability. I have extensive experience and wisdom guiding bosses and leaders to hire, coach, and manage their teams successfully – this includes getting you out of the way and working with and through people effectively to achieve the results required. Contact me to learn more about my in-depth, one-on-one, customized coaching programs.

Want to Improve Your Hiring Decisions?

October 17, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“If predicting job success were easy, or quick, we wouldn’t see expensive early hiring failures!” John W. Howard PhD

As you know, hiring and investing in your people costs money. Too often, mistakes are made despite all the interviews and other pre-employment rituals. Your retention, revenues, and results suffer.

The problem occurs when you hire, transfer, or promote people into jobs that don’t fit them. This often results in the person leaving your company and taking other top talent with them. For example, taking your top salesperson and promoting them to the manager role is a frequent misstep.

Current Problems Most Companies are Experiencing

Relying on:

Intuitive Hiring. Yes, it’s easy to rely on our “intuition/gut” to tell you if the person is the right one. The problem is two-fold. #1: There is no objective data, which often results in the collection of false information and hiring mistakes. #2: Your retention, reputation, revenues, and results suffer.

The Resume. Over 80 percent of resumes contain inaccuracies, embellishments, or lies. Many resumes today are created using AI, online templates, or professional resume writers. The question is, “How valid is the information?” Remember, you need objective and reliable data to improve your hiring decisions. The resume alone will never give you that.

Any Assessment. Over 95 percent of assessments today are not validated for pre-employment or job selection use. It’s time to learn about the science and legality of using objective job fit assessments. (See Chapter 9 in Hire Amazing Employees)

Overcoming These Challenges Requires Using Real Systems

Use the interview, assessments, and due diligence equally in hiring decisions. Do not rely solely on the interview; stop asking questions that are not job-related. (SEE Chapter 1 in Hire Amazing Employees)

Select a job fit assessment with the validity, reliability, and predictive validity that comply with the Department Labor Guidelines for pre-employment and selection use. (Most hiring bosses don’t do this.) The proper assessment will guide you to hire the right people with your eyes open to any challenges you may encounter. Remember, no one is perfect, but you cannot teach a cat to become a dog.

Train your hiring bosses. Use an intracompany system that provides all the tools and resources required. This will save you and them from hiring mistakes, costly turnover of current employees and clients, and legal challenges. (See Chapter 3 in Hire Amazing Employees)

Don’t Overlook Hidden Talent: Many talented people are already employed in your company. You overlook them based on biases and other subjective factors and seek top talent from outside the company.

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor/Leadership Results Coach with over 31 years of practical experience guiding leaders and bosses to improve their hiring, coaching, and managing practices and produce amazing results! And yes, achieving business success always starts with having the right people in the right jobs! She has been an Authorized PXT Select® Partner for over 32 years. Contact Jeannette to learn more about these state-of-the-art job-fit assessment tools or how to coach and manage your people to achieve incredible results.

A note from Jeannette: Is the way you hire people working for you? Are you happy with your hiring results? Improving your retention, revenues, and results creates a positive reputation for you and the company. Contact me for a free, confidential conversation on how to improve your selection process and hiring decisions.

Now is the time to get into focused action! Are there days you dread doing what is needed to manage your people, projects, and team’s financial performance? You’re not alone! Everyone has those days! But continuing to hide behind excuses only hurts you and your future promotability. I have extensive experience and wisdom guiding bosses and leaders to hire, coach, and manage their teams successfully – this includes getting you out of the way and working with and through people effectively to achieve the results required. Contact me to learn more about my in-depth, one-on-one, customized coaching programs.

The Secret to Creating Goals that ARE Achievable

October 6, 2024September 30, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“Teamwork requires working together to achieve better results while not ignoring issues.” Jeannette Seibly

We all have goals, dreams, and wishes for our careers and life. But too often, we fail to achieve them. We blame the economy, our bosses, and our family. We wait (and keep on waiting) until it’s no longer a viable goal.

What’s missing? Taking responsibility for how we create our goals. We allow our thoughts, ideas, and feelings to camouflage what we really really really want to accomplish.

7 Strategies for Achieving Your Real Goals

1. Ensure the Goal is Real. There are many guidelines for writing goals. Google them – Achievable, Measurable, Realistic, and With a By-When Date. Use this information to get you started.

2. Here’s the hard part: Goals should be ten words or less! I know, it seems impossible, but it isn’t. When you use too many words, the true goal will be camouflaged in vocabulary and will sabotage taking real actions. Shorten the goal to 10 words or less to be crystal clear and flat as a pancake.

3. Keep It Simple. When you become too wordy, you make the goal, dream, wish, or intention impossible to accomplish. We were all trained to be wordy (think of school when stating the simple fact wasn’t good enough … we had to write a paragraph or one-pager to get a good grade). Ask yourself, “What do I really really really want to accomplish?” For example, I want to get a job making six figures. However, the job must be remote, cannot require working more than 30 hours a week, and provide three weeks of vacation. This is no longer an actual goal.

Instead, ask yourself what do you really really really want? The new goal: “Get a job making $125,000 annually by 12-31-2024.” This has become simple and doable.

4. Clarity and Discernment. Ensure your idea will work as designed by reviewing the numbers realistically. Will you break even, operate at a loss, or be profitable? It requires more than “feeling it” and “believing it.” For example, flipping homes involves knowledge about buying the home, the cost of repairs and labor, closing costs, and the length of time it’ll take to sell (aka flip). Goal: Sell a home for a 30 percent profit in 6 months.

5. Listen to Feedback! Before launching your idea, talk with a knowledgeable person. Ask open-ended questions. You are listening for: What is missing in my plan or idea? When ideas are not working, sometimes, it only takes a simple tweak, and they will work.

The biggest challenge? Your emotional attachment to your way of doing something can get in the way. Especially if you’ve been thinking and rethinking and overthinking the idea. Feedback will guide you through it if you listen.

6. Then, Review the Goal. Fine-tune. While you don’t want naysayers to upend your goal, reviewing and considering their input before moving forward is important. Example: I had someone tell me it would take 2 years before I could get the funding required to launch a program. I listened, asked questions, and made slight adjustments to my plan. Then, moved forward. I launched the program in 13 weeks, and it was profitable. Here was my goal: Launch a regional event for career advisors by xxx.

7. Remember, when you’ve hit a wall, or someone is blocking you, it’s time to hire a coach. We all have blind spots that get in the way. By working with an executive coach and taking a qualified job fit assessment, you can obtain real insight into what is getting in your way. (Note: qualified job fit assessments have incredibly high accuracy and reflect who we are – they are not focused on how we want to be seen – which often gets in the way of achieving our goals).

Examples:

Wanting to be a salesperson without the willingness and ability to close a sale on a consistent basis will limit your tenure as a sales rep. Instead, if you want to be in sales and be successful, get honest about your abilities – get the training required – now seek a job in sales that fits you!

OR,

You want to be a boss. But on truthful reflection, the real goal is making more money. Since you are unwilling to do the actual work required to be an effective boss/leader, find a position that accomplishes your financial desires.

A note from Jeannette: We all have goals, desires, and dreams we wish to accomplish. What gets in our way is that we camouflage our goals with too many words to describe them. This makes it impossible to achieve them. This week’s article focuses on simplifying and clarifying your goal to achieve the intended results. Want help discovering and fine-tuning your actual goal? Contact me.

Are You Doing Complete Work?

September 16, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“What we say we will do and actually do matters!” Jeannette Seibly

One of the most difficult challenges for bosses/leaders today is ensuring they’re doing what they say and doing “complete” work.

What does “doing complete work” mean?

Taking action to research and present all data needed to approve new ideas or solutions.
Providing all necessary information for bosses, employees, and customers to make good, well-informed decisions.
Completing duties to the highest standards.

Due to busyness, fear, lack of motivation, or poor communication skills, many bosses/leaders today fail to ensure they and their teams are doing complete work. When shortcuts are taken, quality and customer and job satisfaction are negatively impacted, and challenge the bottom line.

Do you …

Ignore resolving team conflicts by agreeing there is an issue/conflict but fail to resolve it?
Have great policies but fail to enforce them?
Have well-designed systems but fail to coach, train, and manage others to use them effectively?
Complete part of the job and hope others will “clean up” after you?
Wait to feel motivated to do the complete work – and then, just keep on waiting?
Fail to focus (e.g., mind wandering) or allow yourself to multi-task?

It’s essential to be the type of boss/leader who gets the job done by doing complete work.

How to Do Complete Work

Hire for Job Fit. Use objective job fit data to select, coach, and manage team members for better results. Many surveys show that outcomes can be spectacular when people fit their job responsibilities and are given opportunities to learn and grow. The outcome … retention, revenues, and results increase!

Communicate Clearly. It starts with you providing transparent and effective communication. Be clear about expectations and goals, and provide the training required to achieve them. Remember, word choice matters. Be open to hearing honest communication from your employees.

Delegate and Empower. Believing in yourself and your team members is critical. Giving them opportunities to excel and expand their skills makes for a positive work experience. It shows up in the quality of the work completed and their willingness to admit mistakes, be coachable, and enjoy learning.

Provide Resources. Ensure you’re providing appropriate tools and training — it makes a visible difference.

Share Feedback in Real Time. Don’t wait until performance appraisal time since waiting allows minor incidents to expand into upsets and conflicts. Use the direct or sandwich approach to share feedback, which must occur now to make a positive difference.

Monitor Results. Without micromanaging, use digital tracking to ensure tasks are on track. Make the scoreboard available for all to see. Check for progress daily or weekly so there are no surprises or issues occurring that can sabotage results. Remind teams frequently about the purpose of the project or job and the value they provide.

Be Accountable. Accountability starts with you! It means taking responsibility for showing up, asking for help, and accomplishing the results you said you’d produce. Hire an executive coach to discover your blind spots that get in the way. For example, overcoming the fear of talking to team members about mistakes without being heard as critical. Don’t forget to face head-on the obstacles that get in the way (e.g., factions, silos, difficult team members, etc.).

Encourage a Culture of Excellence. This isn’t about perfectionism. It’s about doing quality work that elicits favorable responses from others. Don’t forget to reward and acknowledge each and every person for their efforts – it encourages more of the same complete work.

A note from Jeannette: What does doing complete work mean? Many bosses/leaders today are incredibly busy. They do just enough to get by and hope someone else will take care of the rest. The problem? Failure to do complete work impacts everyone! Want to better understand this required work practice? Contact me.

Are You Experiencing a Crisis in Confidence? Want to Come Back Stronger?

October 6, 2024September 9, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“Losing confidence in yourself means it’s time to review, re-engage, and come back stronger than before.” Jeannette Seibly

All bosses/leaders have experienced or will experience a crisis in confidence, self-doubt, or fear when working towards achieving a goal – the more significant and innovative the intended result – the more likely this will occur.

How can you tell if you’re experiencing a crisis in confidence?

You are:

Unable to make decisions
Making poor decisions by ignoring the facts
Concerned or fearful of what others will think, say, or do
Unable to sleep or fail to take good care of yourself
Not feeling comfortable with the changes being made
Unwilling to admit a mistake and take responsibility
Changing the goal (or intended result) to reflect current progress

When you face a challenging moment or experience doubt or uncertainty, it’s time to regain and revitalize your confidence. Remember, every boss/leader experiences these moments; it does not define your abilities or worth.

How to Regain Your Confidence

Acknowledge Your Feelings: Feeling uncertain or questioning yourself is okay. Recognize and accept these feelings instead of ignoring them. Contact your executive coach, industry mentor, or confidantes if it persists.

Reflect on Your Achievements: Take some time to review what you’ve accomplished in the past by completing the five easy exercises in “It’s Time to Brag!” A positive reflection on past successes reminds you of your capabilities.

Learn and Adapt: Learning from mistakes or setbacks is crucial. Complete “What Worked? / What Didn’t Work?” Then, with insight and renewed confidence, acknowledge the overlooked tasks and milestones or errors made when completing them.

Seek Advice and Support: Asking for help and talking with your executive coach, mentor, or one or two business professionals is wise. An outside perspective is often constructive and offers encouragement when you listen with an open mind and positive expectations and ask open-ended questions. Remember, the conversation will go faster, and your confidence will return quicker if you remain emotionally unattached to your point of view on how it “should” work.

Set Small, Achievable Tasks to Regain Momentum:

Adapt your strategies and approach based on what you’ve learned from the exercises and conversations listed above.
Create a “It’s Done List” (aka To-Do list).
Break the tasks into smaller, quickly accomplishable steps (e.g., getting a bank loan requires a P&L that is clean and up-to-date).
Schedule the completion of all of these items and take at least one focused action step now.

The natural confidence this process creates is priceless. But stay and keep in action – you’re not done until the intended result is accomplished.

Practice Self-Care: Ensure you care for your physical and mental health. Exercise, proper nutrition, and relaxation can all contribute to a more positive mindset while rebuilding confidence. Include journaling your brags and what you’re grateful for as part of a healthful ritual.

Stay Persistent: Confidence grows by experiencing and overcoming setbacks, frustrations, and failures. Keep moving forward, even if progress feels slow. Remember, the tortoise, not the racing rabbit, won the race!

When you embrace these steps and take the actions to overcome a crisis in confidence, you will return stronger than before. Don’t forget to acknowledge yourself for this achievement — and update your brags.

A note from Jeannette: Are you experiencing a crisis in confidence? Do you want to come back stronger? This week’s article is a must-read for bosses and leaders wishing to work through these inevitable crises and come out stronger than ever before. Need an objective perspective? Contact me.

Transform Stress into Resilience

October 6, 2024September 2, 2024 by Jeannette Seibly

“Embrace stress as an opportunity for your resilience to shine through.” Jeannette Seibly

While many believe summer is a time to slow down and relax, the truth is, it’s been a hectic time … political rhetoric, economic uncertainty, workplace changes, and confusion about AI. Family and friend time can create additional frustrations. Your business projects, profitability (or lack thereof), clients, and teams have caused stress. Transforming your stress into resilience is required more than ever.

7 Ways to Transform Stress into Resilience

Yes, it’s a #1 stress reducer. Breathe in for a count of 10, pause, then exhale for a count of 10. Do this at least three times. You’ll be amazed at how fast this works while creating resilience and improving results.
Honor your inner leader. Too often, we attempt to ignore our inner wisdom to slow down. It’s time to listen, learn, and discuss it with your executive coach, mentor, and/or therapist. (Yes, mental health concerns are at an all-time high – there is no shame in reaching out for help – especially when doing so reduces stress, creates resilience, and produces better results.)
Know thyself. Many times, especially today, people are in jobs where they do not fit their work responsibilities. In addition, the challenges of working with factions, sticky workplace issues, and complicated working relationships can make achieving the required results highly stressful. Take an objective qualified job fit assessment and work with your executive coach to determine your natural leadership skills and blind spots. The objective awareness of strengths and intrinsic weaknesses will develop resilience to issues you cannot control.
Get the facts. Clarify the actual issue. Too often, we latch on to the smallest bits of information and run with it. This almost always creates a more significant problem (s). Talk out the facts with one or two trusted advisors and your executive coach. With a clearer perspective, get into action and resolve the issue now.
Have the tough conversations you’ve been avoiding. Stress occurs when someone’s choice of words, discussion points, tone of voice, hand gestures, or facial expressions offend you. BREATHE. Remember, when stressed, you will overreact and misinterpret. Instead, have a conversation to learn the truth. If you don’t resolve it now, an irrevocable point will occur, preventing you from resolving the situation and saving the relationship.
Keep a private journal. Use journaling as a way to create a positive future. Write down “brags” about what has been working. Include “I am grateful for …” Write about your future and goals. Take action on one of your goals – remember the smallest steps can create resilience, and the momentum will keep you moving forward.
Be present with people. People know when you’re not listening. That creates stress for everyone. Then, to make it worse, you lie about it. It becomes a stress-filled interaction when others must repeat themselves. They become resentful. Instead, learn mindful resilience. I promise, listening will reduce stress and increase resilience, and your results will improve, too!

A note from Jeannette: It’s the end of summer, and you’re surprised by the amount of stress you’re feeling. You’re not alone. Here are some tips to alleviate it and develop resilience to move forward. Contact me for help with addressing that nagging issue that won’t disappear.