Results and Leadership Success Depend on How You Handle Feedback

“Positive and negative feedback are gifts we can use to accelerate our leadership growth.” Jeannette Seibly

Leaders, bosses, and business professionals—this article is a must-read. It could make or break your career and business.

You can always tell how successful a boss or leader is by their ability to listen to and handle feedback.

Years ago, a plant manager called me. When I didn’t tell him what he wanted to hear, he yelled, “You don’t know what you’re talking about because you’re a woman!”

A colleague in the office next to mine overheard the exchange and called me into his office. He said, “Here’s what you need to do.” (No, I hadn’t asked for his feedback; frankly, I wasn’t sure I wanted it.)

Still, I followed his advice. As a result, I became the only person in my department that the plant manager would work with. He trusted me since I took the time to tour his plant and express interest in the operations.

The unsolicited feedback was a valuable gift—a lesson I still remember and appreciate to this day.

Feedback Can Make or Break Your Credibility:

Egos in Overdrive. Phrases like “How dare you!” or “You don’t know how to do what I do” showcase your ego at work. The problem? When you truly need honest feedback, no one will give it to you.

Debate Mode. Responses like “You don’t understand,” or “No one else mentioned it,” or “I didn’t have time to prepare” are counterproductive. They discourage people from sharing invaluable insights. Instead, you’ll hear only what they think you want to hear. Remember, standing your ground diplomatically during disagreements (e.g., contract negotiations) is not the same as receiving feedback.

Being a Right-Fighter. Similar to debating, being a right-fighter often escalates into lengthy emails or rants defending why the feedback should be dismissed or is unimportant. This approach blocks leadership growth and improvement. Often, it will sideline you from the next promotion or new opportunity.

Another Personal Example:

Recently, I led a 40-minute breakout session titled “Get Your Brag On!” Overall, it was well-received:

• “I could have listened to you all afternoon!”
• “I rewrote my presentation introduction based on your advice—thank you!”

However, I also got less favorable feedback:

• “We didn’t have enough time to write out our responses.”

When feedback isn’t glowing, I’ve learned to respond with gratitude: “Thank you. I appreciate your participation.” Then, I review it with a trusted friend to see how I can improve if necessary.

Ways to Learn from Feedback and Win:

1. Listen. Whether the feedback was requested or unsolicited, set aside your ego and listen. Simply listening can positively impact your results. Remember, everyone makes mistakes. It’s how you acknowledge them and learn that makes the difference.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions. Be curious and seek clarity to understand the feedback better.

3. Mirror Their Words. Avoid putting words into their mouth. For example, don’t say, “I’m sorry you’re disappointed” unless they’ve used the word “disappointed.” Reflecting their own words shows you value their input.

4. Express Gratitude. Even if the feedback stings, treat it as a gift. A simple “Thank you” can open doors to growth and learning. You never know the impact feedback can make in opening future opportunities for you.

5. Review and Apply. Thoughtfully consider the feedback. Talk with your executive coach and decide where it’s most appropriate to incorporate changes, and if so, how and when to do so.

Want to learn how to give and receive feedback? Click here for a previous article.

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Working with small and family businesses, her expertise guides leaders and bosses to refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Are You a Rebel Leader Creating Positive Change, Or Just Being Annoying?

“Being a rebel requires taking focused actions that actually make a positive difference.” Jeannette Seibly

At the heart of many entrepreneurial bosses and leaders lies a rebellious spirit. It’s one of the reasons they are promoted and, paradoxically, why they can be sidelined or fired when their rebelliousness becomes more annoying than productive.

There’s nothing wrong with creating new ideas and opportunities. However, continuing to complain or make snide comments about outdated policies or ineffective systems won’t lead to positive change; it’s just annoying.

Example of Just Being Annoying:

I often walk around the golf course where I live. They have a concrete pathway for walkers that also serves as a cart path. However, in the back, on the cart path, there is a new sign that states, “Don’t Walk Past the Yellow Line.” While I understand the importance (Hint: Fore!), my inner rebel steps over the yellow line with both feet to show that I can. (No, I don’t walk any further.) It’s a small act of rebellion since I used to be able to walk to the back of the course.

The only result? It’s annoying to my neighbor who walks with me. It does not make a positive difference.

Example of Effective Rebel Leadership:

When I started my career, my employer didn’t have an education reimbursement program. So, I created one with their help and support. I did the research, talked with people, and presented the facts. Upper management approved. Yes, there were a couple of snafus (to be expected) during implementation. But overall, it was well-received (even by the naysayers). As a result, many employees (and bosses) received their degrees, and I was reimbursed for my Master’s Degree.

This is an example of being a rebel guiding the creation for positive change.

What is Rebel Leadership?

Rebel leadership refers to a style that challenges conventional norms and practices. Rebel leaders often think outside the box, embrace change, and encourage innovation within their organizations. They are characterized by their boldness, creativity, and willingness to take risks.

Key Aspects of Rebel Leadership:

  • Visionary Thinking: Rebel leaders can envision new possibilities and inspire others to see and pursue them.
  • Courage: They are not afraid to question the status quo and make unconventional suggestions and decisions. Then, have the willingness to follow-through to execute the idea or plan.
  • Resilience: Rebel leaders are adaptable and can bounce back from setbacks, learning and growing from their experiences.
  • Empathy: Despite their rebellious nature, they value diverse perspectives and strive to create an inclusive environment.
  • Innovation: They foster a culture of creativity and encourage their teams to experiment and explore new ideas.

Rebel leaders play a crucial role in driving progress, disrupting the norm, and transforming organizations and industries. Their approach (along with guidance from their executive coach) can lead to significant breakthroughs, positive changes, and great results when handled correctly. Alternatively, they can be annoying if they fail to walk the talk and simply complain or use passive-aggressive approaches.

How do you unleash your inner rebel for positive results? Next week, we’ll do an in-depth blueprint of being a rebel for positive change.

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Working with small and family businesses, her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Key Factors to Hire for Job Fit and Avoid Costly Loss of People

“Job fit is crucial when hiring and promoting people to achieve intended business results.” Jeannette Seibly

Did you know: “Employee engagement in the U.S. fell to its lowest level in a decade in 2024, with only 31% of employees engaged?” (Gallup)

I would assert that many employers are unclear about what job fit is and what it is not. Employees who excel in jobs that fit their thinking style, core behaviors, and occupational interests stay longer and are more engaged.

If you are frustrated and annoyed with hiring great people into the wrong job, this article is for you.

Today, many qualified people are looking for work because they are retiring, being fired, being laid off, or looking for something better. Although there are a lot of great job candidates available – buyer beware – it doesn’t mean they will fit well into the job responsibilities of your company. Outdated hiring practices that rely on intuitive hiring, biases, and inappropriate pre-employment assessments will cause you to lose key customers and top talent while hurting profitability.

“Too often, we hire based on subjective reasons but fire for poor job fit.” Jeannette Seibly

What Are a Few Signs of Poor Job Fit?

• Work assignments are late, with a lot of excuses
• Promises are made without achieving the intended results
• Frequent mistakes occur, and the employee misreads what needs to be done
• Conflicts with team members, customers, and bosses
• Failure to listen, incorporate others’ ideas, and develop win-win-win outcomes
• Lack of business growth (sales) or overrun of expenses
• Constant change in direction – they are easily distracted by “shiny objects” or “crystal ball” syndromes

Why Does Poor Job Fit Happen?

• No real objective data collected (e.g., resumes are more than 80 percent inaccurate).
• Rely on intuitive hiring practices that reflect biases (e.g., the job interviews account for 90 percent of the hiring decision).
• Unwilling to improve the selection process, citing costs for improvement and ignoring costs for hiring mistakes.
• Failure to conduct thorough due diligence (e.g., relying on false data, such as name of employer, education).
• Use inappropriate assessments to determine job fit (e.g., overlook validity, reliability, predictive validity, and distortion factors)
• Believe any known limitations can be overcome with training and development. (Forgetting that no one works that hard to be someone they are not. This is a trap that almost every hiring boss/leader falls into!)

What Is Job Fit?

Job fit refers to the alignment between an individual’s skills, experience, values, and personality with the requirements, culture, and expectations of a specific job and organization. It encompasses several key aspects:

1. Skills and Experience Fit: How well an individual’s abilities and past work experience match the tasks and responsibilities of the role. While these required skills and experience may sound good on paper, the job candidate may not be able to use the skills effectively. It’s why valid job-fit assessments are required. When using highly validated and reliable assessments, you gain insight into the real person and their core behavior, occupational interests, and thinking styles.

2. Cultural Fit: The degree to which an individual’s values, behaviors, and working style align with the company’s culture and work environment. A startup or new business venture is very different from working in a well-established company. In a company that requires thinking outside the box, some job candidates may believe they can … but are unable to design and develop sustainable systems or results.

3. Motivation and Interest: The extent to which an individual’s career goals and personal interests are aligned with the job’s duties and opportunities for growth. With changes in people’s work ethic, their career or life aspirations may misalign with the company’s needs and goals. It’s critical to have very clear expectations: PTO, work-life balance, accountability for following up and following through, etc.

4. Team Fit: How well an individual works with existing team members and contributes to team dynamics and cohesion. Are they someone who can work well with others, be coachable, and keep their ego out of the way?

When job fit is strong, employees are satisfied, business excels, and customers keep coming back.

Strategies to Improve Job Fit

• Create a sustainable strategic job fit selection process.
• Get real about what you need and the type of person who can fulfill the desired results.
• Work with a talent advisor/hiring consultant to train managers on interviewing, due diligence, and using the proper job fit assessment. (Each should account for 1/3 of the selection decision.)
• Remember, many savvy job candidates will tell you what you want to hear, and hiring bosses have a low probability of discerning the truth. It’s why objective data is required.

To recap: Using a qualified job fit assessment that meets the validity and reliability requirements outlined by the Department of Labor, conducting proper due diligence, and structuring interview processes to affirm your intuition/gut will provide clarity and are crucial to improving employee engagement, customer retention, and improving the bottom line.

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Working with small and family businesses, her expertise guides leaders and bosses to refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Grab her book, “Hire Amazing Employees” — it provides overlooked issues when designing and using a strategic job fit selection system.

Selling Ideas is Required of Leaders

“To be an influencer, you must be emotionally unattached to receiving credit.” Jeannette Seibly

As a leader, selling your ideas takes two things: 1) lots of practice and 2) the ability to have the right conversations. Emotional intelligence is also required to be able to read others’ reactions, incorporate their ideas, and be flexible without losing the intention of the idea.

What gets in your way?

• It’s all about you! AKA ego! While it may initially be your idea, the refusal to expand and contract the idea will hurt implementation and execution.

• Immovable. You’re emotionally attached to how it MUST look. The reality? Others will influence the idea’s success.

• Ignoring the Full Impact. You’ve not considered the impact it has on others, the situation, perception (e.g., co-workers, community, clients), cost, and time factors.

• It’s Not the Right Time. And … the reality may be (depending on your team, boss, and company) … it may never be the right time (especially if they don’t like your idea).

• You always have new ideas! People hate change and have tuned you out, especially constant change for the sake of change.

How to Sell Your Ideas and Be Heard

Share ideas during meetings. Then, research the pros and cons IF there is interest.

• Create ideas during conversations. Be responsible for listening to their feedback and input.

• Share ideas after you’ve researched them. This includes the benefits and costs: objective facts, other’s insights, and company politics.

• Get real — objective facts are key. Look at actual costs, time, and impact on others. Then, include emotional factors.

• Incorporate others’ input. Be responsible for listening, asking open-ended questions, without diminishing the value or the intention of their input or your idea.

• Brag! Use your brags effectively. Selling yourself and your idea at the same time makes a positive difference. For example, when I worked at QRS as a Quality Manager, we talked about a similar idea, and here were the pros and cons. Remember, facts are important!

• Share the credit. Remember, it’s a team effort!

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Results Aren’t Hard to Achieve When You Set Them as Big Goals

“We need to change our mindset about how we go about achieving our goals!” Jeannette Seibly

Achieving results can be straightforward when you set them as achievable goals! Often, the problem is we play it safe and stick to results we know we can win instead of expanding our mindset and skill set. Setting small comfortable goals (aka tasks) often leads to distractions, boredom, and blaming external factors.

Getting outside your comfort zone with bigger goals can make a positive and impactful difference. (Remember, a goal is not a task … it’s intended to make you stretch yourself.)

Tips to Achieve Intended Results

1. Complete the “Get Your Brag On! and learn how to sell yourself and win in five easy steps. These exercises create the positive mindset to expand or create your “winning game.”

2. Ask yourself, what do you really, really, really want to achieve? Write it down, cross it out, and ask again without any “yeah, buts!” This helps uncover your true (underneath the surface) goals.

3. Repeat the question above. Doing so helps bypass initial beliefs about what you should want to achieve, and goes beneath the surface.

4. Write down your goal and fine-tune it into 10 words or less. This make take some time. Don’t skip this step! Clear, concise goals are more engaging and meaningful. And, more likely to be achieved.

5. Review for intention. Clarity of your intention is crucial to influencing others while selling and achieving your results.

6. Declare a deadline for the goal. While achieving the goal is important, the transformation of your attitude and behavior requires commitment and focused action. Without a deadline, you will let yourself off the hook with too many excuses.

7. Work backward from the deadline to create milestones. Weekly or monthly indicators work best to ensure you’re on the right path.

8. Fill in the details. Include team members, communication, budget, ROI’s, operation, and technology aspects.

9. Hire an executive coach to hold you accountable and responsible for achieving your results. The right coach will guide you, simplify the process, and keep you focused. They will also hold you to a higher standard that you’ve always wanted to achieve but didn’t know how.

Remember, without structure and accountability, you’re more likely to dilute your goal, get distracted, or set it aside when obstacles arise … and they will.

Results can be easy to achieve when you set them as BIG, achievable goals!

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Communication Styles that Hurt Leadership Effectiveness

“Good communication skills are required by everyone for a company, team, and project to achieve intended results.” Jeannette Seibly

Between 40% and 60% of conversational utterances are ego-related, focusing on our own feelings, opinions, and personal experiences. This self-centered conversational tendency is even more pronounced on social media, where some 80% of communication focuses on the self. (Wall Street Journal, January 2025)

The Problem: Poor communication is a widespread issue in workplaces today, worsening among leaders and bosses causes preventable conflicts.

Why This Matters: Leaders must listen, engage, and encourage employees. Otherwise, it will impede projects, budgets, timelines, quality, delivery, and other results.

Communication Styles That Cause Conflicts

Self-Interest Approach: Asking questions just to turn the conversation to oneself (aka BoomerAsking). (Wall Street Journal, January 2025).

Top-Down Approach: Dictating tasks without explaining “why” undervalues team members, stifles brainstorming, and leads to passive resistance.

• Passive Approach: Avoiding conflict and not asserting opinions leads to unresolved issues and perceived weak leadership.

• Aggressive Approach: Harsh, confrontational communication erodes trust and makes team members fear sharing ideas.

• Manipulative Approach: Deceit and fact-spinning create a toxic culture of mistrust.

• Inconsistent Approach: Frequently changing messages (aka relying on your feelings and indecisiveness) cause confusion and make leadership seem unreliable.

• Lack of Openness Approach: Unwillingness to listen to feedback and new ideas alienates team members and stifles innovation.

• Overly Technical Approach: Using complex language alienates non-experts and hinders understanding.

No one wants to believe that they are using these approaches. But take a moment and really look to see when, where, and why you engage in these bad habits.

How to Transform These Bad Habits

1. Hire an Executive Coach. Even if you need to pay for it yourself, it’s worth every dollar. Poor communication is why many bosses and leaders find themselves unemployed or sidelined. It’s avoidable with an executive coach.

2. Use a Qualified Job Fit Assessment. Understand “why” your thinking style, core behavioral traits, and occupational interests can get in the way of communicating effectively with others. This objective tool is priceless and helps you keep your job! And, when used as designed, can help you get promoted!

3. Develop Strong Meeting Leadership: Leading meetings effectively is crucial — on-site, remote, and hybrid. Work with your coach, take workshops, and watch videos to learn the nuances between mediocre and great meetings. Your communication style will determine the success of your teams’ results.

4. Become an Active Listener and Listen to and Give Constructive Feedback: Attend and participate in workshops, leadership coaching sessions, and other feedback programs. Don’t be afraid to provide quality feedback that makes a positive difference. It all requires good communication skills and an awareness of how you are perceived.

5. Develop Emotional Intelligence. Being mindful is key. Learn when and how to use humor, approach sensitive topics with empathy, and be willing to learn along with your team.

6. Pay Attention to Generational Differences. Older generations may use meetings to tout “this is the way it’s always been done,” making it difficult for newer employees to provide new ideas and solutions. Younger employees may rely too much on social media as “the way to get things done” and fail to understand “fake news” and “sensational podcasts designed to attract ‘Likes.’” It’s up to you to manage these interactions with communication finesse!

7. Train on Etiquette and Expectations: It starts with you! Become familiar with virtual conferencing systems and how to effectively communicate using them! Then, train your team members and others on how to get the most out of these meetings.

8. Be Coachable and Have a Willingness to Admit Mistakes: When you feel insecure about a situation or working relationship, you will tend to dominate the conversation instead of asking for help. Share your experience with brevity and admit when you don’t know something. (It’s a foundational skill required of great leaders.) Hold yourself accountable for implementing the feedback asap.

Good communication skills used during 1:1’s, team meetings, and other conversational moments can be beneficial to everyone … especially you! Remember, a good communication style will avoid conflict and will enhance your team’s cohesion and productivity while achieving great results!

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

How to Address Issues and Keep Positive Working Relationships

“Do you want to be right or effective? It’s a choice we need to make during every conversation.” Jeannette Seibly

There will be times when people do what they do and believe they are behaving appropriately. This includes saying something they believe is true (without supporting facts) or making a project more challenging (due to multitasking and not listening). As a team leader, what do you do?

A team leader has a remote team, and virtual meetings are essential. The problem? Many team members come unprepared, eat during the call, handle personal tasks, or have their cameras off. Instead of addressing the issue one-on-one, the team leader calls them out during the meeting and demands they behave in a way he believes is appropriate. The new problem? Once a person has been humiliated, they will not forget nor forgive!

Steps to Build and Keep Positive Working Relationships

1. Prepare

Know Your Facts: Gather all relevant information and data to support your perspective.
Understand the Other Side: Take the time to understand the other person’s viewpoint and the reasons behind it.

2. Use Mindful Communication Skills

• Active Listening: Listen carefully to other people’s arguments without interrupting. Always let them present first and share your own opinions last.
• Empathy: Show empathy by acknowledging the other person’s feelings and perspectives. Be sure to use the words or phrases they used, or you could create further upset (e.g., if they use the word “I’m feeling upset.” Do NOT say, “I understand that you are angry.”)
• Clarity: Clearly articulate your point of view using facts and logic.

3. Adjust Your Approach

• Choose the Right Time and Place: Disagree in a private setting and choose a time when both parties are calm and receptive. If it is a group issue, address the group without naming names.
• Stay Calm and Respectful: Maintain a calm and respectful tone throughout the conversation. If you feel emotional, wait to address the situation. Your tone of voice, when triggered, will get in the way of future interactions.
• Focus on the Issue, Not the Person: Critique the idea, not the individual presenting it. This is key—too often, bosses like to focus on a personality trait, which may be incorrect and leave the person feeling misunderstood and defensive.

4. Be Collaborative

• Find Common Ground: Identify areas where you both agree and build on them.
• Propose Solutions: Offer constructive solutions or compromises that address both parties’ concerns. Remember, win-win-win is the key!
• Stay Open-Minded: Be willing to consider alternative perspectives and solutions. You don’t know everything, so it’s important to allow other ideas to develop before final decisions are made.

5. Follow-Up

• Clarify Outcomes: Ensure that both parties have a clear understanding of the agreed-upon outcome. Write it down – memories are short!
• Express Gratitude: Genuinely thank the other person for their time and for engaging in the discussion.
• Maintain Professionalism: Continue to interact professionally and positively in future interactions. Be responsible for your tone of voice and say, “please” and “thank you.” Also, under all circumstances, avoid gossip!

Issues can lead to disagreements — they are a natural part of any working relationship. Handling them with empathy, respect, and a focus on collaboration can strengthen professional relationships and lead to better outcomes for everyone involved.

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Secrets to Achieving a Successful 2025

“What are you doing differently to get the results this year?” Jeannette Seibly

A new year has begun! While some of you as leaders and bosses may be excited, others dread it and hope it’s not another year like last year!

What are the secrets to moving forward and achieving a fabulous year?

No, it’s not creating more resolutions!

It’s expanding your leadership!

Keep reading …

Secrets to Expanding Your Leadership

Be Curious. Take time for reflection on what you really, really, really want to achieve this year for yourself! Expand and think bigger than your normal way—playing small and safe won’t get you a promotion, pay increase, or new job opportunities. Expanding your curiosity requires hiring the right executive coach and doing the work!

Seek Feedback. While you may hate to hear others’ opinions, thoughts, and feelings (most people do), discovering your leadership blind spots is priceless. Suggested questions: “When you think of me, what are my strengths?” “What are one or two areas that you would recommend I improve on?” “Anything else you’d like to say?” Remember, you’ve asked them for their feedback. Do NOT debate. Instead, ask open-ended questions to delve deeper if you desire to do so. If you really want to expand your leadership savvy, do this.

Know Thy True Self. Yes, many people believe they already do. Interestingly, they know themselves by how they want to be seen … not by who they really are (and how others see them). In this era of desired authenticity, knowing your inherent strengths and how to work with these traits to minimize weaknesses is important. This expands your influence and encourages others to listen to your ideas.

Seek Resolutions. Conflict and disagreements can create havoc with your team and your future, especially if you’re someone who likes to sugar-coat the issue or deny the issue exists. Your job as a leader is to help others grow and develop. It starts by having people discover “why” there are differences and how to use critical thinking skills. Learn to expand your results and resolve the situation instead of having the focus on someone’s personality!

Develop Good Working Relationships. You don’t have to love your boss or employees. However, you do need to focus on their positive qualities and learn how to work with them for your success. I’ve worked with many leaders to develop and expand this skill — it made the #1 difference in their success.

Dial Up Your Humbleness. Yes, egos have a way of getting in the way of your success! To avoid burnout, ask for help! Use your coach, boss, and team to improve and expand (or simplify) your ideas for workability.

Self-Care. When you feel overwhelmed by people and situations, breathe! Sounds simple but it’s not automatic it naturally calms you down. Take a walk. Talk it out privately with a confidant. Again, be open to feedback that you may not want to hear. Being a great leader requires expanding knowledge, confidence, and abilities.

Hire a Coach. ALL successful leaders have coaches! Take the leap and hire the right one now!

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Want to Improve Results? Stop Creating Scapegoats

“When you inspire others to achieve intended results, you do not need to create scapegoats.” Jeannette Seibly

Think briefly about a time you were blamed for a poor result, interaction, or situation.

• How did that feel?
• How did your attitude and behavior change?
• What did you do next?

For many, it may feel familiar to have bosses or leaders who normally create scapegoats! Being scapegoated humiliates and diminishes their value to the team and company. (Note: Humiliating anyone is rarely forgotten nor forgiven!) The team or team members withdraw, stop being innovative, and avoid accountability! They adopt a mindset of “going along to get along” until they find a better boss and employer.

When a leader or boss feels the need to blame others and designate scapegoats, it creates a toxic workplace culture of mistrust and distrust – sabotaging results now and in the future.

What is Scapegoating? In a business context, a scapegoat is an individual or group unfairly blamed for problems, failures, or negative outcomes within a company.

Scapegoating is one of the most destructive actions bosses and leaders can take. When leaders fall into the malicious trap of scapegoating, it’s to avoid feeling like a failure. They attempt to deflect accountability from themselves and deflect focus from the true causes of issues, placing blame on someone who may not be responsible. This is especially prevalent during crises, the loss of major clients, or team failures to achieve intended results.

Cecilia’s Story: Cecilia, a team leader, had a very toxic habit. She refused to take responsibility for her team’s poor results. She’d blame certain team members for the results but was careful not to blame those team members lacking strong self-esteem. If someone questioned her decisions or comments, she would find fault with their comments and then, use them as a scapegoat in future conversations.

By understanding and addressing scapegoating, leaders can foster a more transparent, accountable, and supportive work environment.

How to Stop Scapegoating

Hold Yourself Accountable: As a boss/leader, you need to hold yourself accountable for your and your team’s results. Conduct a deep dive into “What Worked?” and “What Didn’t Work?” to create an objective overview. Ask open-ended questions of the team, co-workers, and executive management to explore what changes could have been made or what issues were ignored.

Be an Effective Communicator: When you own your mistakes, it sets the tone for the team and company. Honest communication and straight talk encourage innovation, agility, and profitability where everyone is engaged and not fearful of becoming a scapegoat.

Focus on Resolving Conflict: Resolving conflicts requires your involvement to ensure people are asking open-ended questions and actively listening. When scapegoating occurs, it’s time to stop so you don’t overlook the core cause of the issue or conflict. Don’t forget to provide team training (e.g., project management, critical thinking, emotional intelligence, etc.) for ALL team members.

Build Ongoing Trust: Mistrust and distrust are rampant in a toxic environment where everyone blames everyone else. To build trust, talk straight. Acknowledge every team member’s contribution to the results. Leaders need to make this a daily practice to build and maintain trust with their teams.

©Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices to achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while guiding those ready to elevate their game to new heights.

Internal Mobility Creates Profitable Companies

“It’s tough when markets change and your people within the company don’t.” Harvard Business Review

Many employees are staying longer with their current employers, but this doesn’t necessarily mean they are happier (also known as the Great Detachment—employees who are unhappy but not leaving, according to Gallup). In fact, many are simply waiting for new jobs elsewhere. The significant reasons? Many companies are failing to provide professional development and opportunities for growth.

Promoting internal mobility is a key strategy for retaining employees, enhancing both company agility and profitability. Leaders should leverage their employees’ skills by facilitating their movement into new roles and opportunities within the company. Internal mobility can include lateral moves, promotions, project-based roles, and taking on new responsibilities.

By creating a company culture that builds on and utilizes existing skills and knowledge, your company can be ready for change and profitable growth!

Steps to Make Your Company Ready for Internal Mobility

Update Current Policies and Practices

Review existing policies and identify gaps that make it difficult for employees to apply for and get different jobs within your company. Instead of requiring a long list of skills and experiences, focus on their accomplishments. For example, ask them to describe a recent project where they and their team produced intended results.

Create Career Pathways

Not everyone wants to be a manager of people, yet this is often the only way employees can get a pay increase. Instead, utilize their experiences by building different career ladders or pathways. Use a qualified job fit assessment to focus on employee strengths and actual interests. For example, placing someone who excels with numbers into accounting may not be beneficial if they have no interest in accounting or finance.

Train and Develop Your Leaders

Many leaders hold their positions due to their expertise in finance, technology, or operations, but they may lack people development skills. Hire coaches for these leaders and focus on developing them to develop others.

Address Cultural Resistance

Some managers and employees resist internal mobility. To overcome these blocks, understand why. For instance, some companies base career mobility on length of service, which is not always indicative of effectiveness or ability to learn new skills. Address this type of resistance by emphasizing skill and performance over tenure.

Address Skill Gaps

Everyone can be a leader without a title, but it requires leaders to allow employees to work without micromanagement. Encourage employees to share ideas and take initiatives to close skill gaps. Provide workshops, one-on-one coaching, and training programs in communication skills, critical thinking, teamwork, and project management to prepare them for internal moves.

Build a Talent Pipeline

Encourage employees to participate in small-group and company-wide teams, as well as trade and professional associations. These opportunities broaden their awareness and help them learn new skills. When new positions arise or employees leave, look first at your talent pipeline to fill these roles. This saves time and money, while increasing your company’s agility and profitability to meet new market demands.

© Jeannette Seibly 2024 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly is a Talent Advisor/Leadership Results Coach with over 32 years of practical experience guiding leaders to improve their hiring, coaching, and managing practices and achieve amazing results. Achieving business success always starts with having the right people in the right jobs. She has been an Authorized PXT Select® Partner for over 33 years. Contact Jeannette to learn more about state-of-the-art job-fit assessment tools or how to coach and manage your people to achieve incredible results.

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